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#416625 - 11/19/12 07:26 AM
MS in today's NY Times
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Executive Director MaleSurvivor
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http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/19/sports...-in-sports.html“Sports is a place where parents send their boys to learn skills, to learn how to be teammates and how to work together — to make boys stronger and healthier,” said Dr. Howard Fradkin, author of “Joining Forces,” a book about how men can heal from sexual abuse. “It’s the place where we send our boys to grow up. The betrayal that occurs when abuse occurs in sports is damaging because it destroys the whole intent of what they started out to do.”
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#416628 - 11/19/12 08:07 AM
Re: MS in today's NY Times
[Re: Chris Anderson]
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Congrats on the coverage.
And thank you, Chris and the entire MS leadership team, for raising awareness and and providing us a home to come together to grow, share and survive.
What would we do without MS? 10,618 of us and counting.
Cant
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"There is a Catskill eagle in some souls that can alike dive down into the blackest gorges, and soar out of them again and become invisible in the sunny spaces... even in his lowest swoop the mountain eagle is still higher than other birds upon the plain, even though they soar." -- from Moby-Dick
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#416658 - 11/19/12 08:26 PM
Re: MS in today's NY Times
[Re: SamV]
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Moderator MaleSurvivor
Registered: 02/26/08
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http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/19/sports...-in-sports.html“Sports is a place where parents send their boys to learn skills, to learn how to be teammates and how to work together — to make boys stronger and healthier,” said Dr. Howard Fradkin, author of “Joining Forces,” a book about how men can heal from sexual abuse. “It’s the place where we send our boys to grow up. The betrayal that occurs when abuse occurs in sports is damaging because it destroys the whole intent of what they started out to do.” I think I agree with the idea here. I went out for football team in 8th grade. It was exhilerating. I felt as though I was finally going to climb on top of the negativity of my life. I had been sexually abused and tortured at camp the year before. Nobody knew this. They only observed some of the effects in my behavior. I couldn't talk above a whisper because I was emotionally disabled. However, the football coach, who was also my gym teacher, took it upon himself to persecute me. He rudely and publicly dismissed me from the JV football team. Then in gym class, he called roll in a way that would embarrass me and emphasize my disability and make me feel bad. In the wrestling part of the gym class, he pitted me against a boy whom he thought was stronger and more confident than I was. I rehearsed the wrestling moves we had been taught and took control of the situation. I won the first round and the "coach" stopped the match. Puffer
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#416678 - 11/20/12 03:59 AM
Re: MS in today's NY Times
[Re: Chris Anderson]
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Registered: 10/16/12
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Congrats on the press Chris! I was there for the panel discussion and thought it was incredible!
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Gary
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#416701 - 11/20/12 10:19 AM
Re: MS in today's NY Times
[Re: Gary31]
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http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/19/sports...-in-sports.html“Sports is a place where parents send their boys to learn skills, to learn how to be teammates and how to work together — to make boys stronger and healthier,” said Dr. Howard Fradkin, author of “Joining Forces,” a book about how men can heal from sexual abuse. “It’s the place where we send our boys to grow up. The betrayal that occurs when abuse occurs in sports is damaging because it destroys the whole intent of what they started out to do.” bump
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#419418 - 12/17/12 11:41 PM
Re: MS in today's NY Times
[Re: pufferfish]
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Member MaleSurvivor
Registered: 02/16/07
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http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/19/sports...-in-sports.html“Sports is a place where parents send their boys to learn skills, to learn how to be teammates and how to work together — to make boys stronger and healthier,” said Dr. Howard Fradkin, author of “Joining Forces,” a book about how men can heal from sexual abuse. “It’s the place where we send our boys to grow up. The betrayal that occurs when abuse occurs in sports is damaging because it destroys the whole intent of what they started out to do.” I think I agree with the idea here. I went out for football team in 8th grade. It was exhilerating. I felt as though I was finally going to climb on top of the negativity of my life. I had been sexually abused and tortured at camp the year before. Nobody knew this. They only observed some of the effects in my behavior. I couldn't talk above a whisper because I was emotionally disabled. However, the football coach, who was also my gym teacher, took it upon himself to persecute me. He rudely and publicly dismissed me from the JV football team. Then in gym class, he called roll in a way that would embarrass me and emphasize my disability and make me feel bad. In the wrestling part of the gym class, he pitted me against a boy whom he thought was stronger and more confident than I was. I rehearsed the wrestling moves we had been taught and took control of the situation. I won the first round and the "coach" stopped the match. Puffer There is SO SO much more to sexual abuse surrounding sports and the people therein. In your case, the coach was sadistic. In my case, the town's coaches and people enabled and entitled the star and/or capable athletes into taking what they want and its OK to destroy the weak.
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