It is very hard for people like us who were abused by people of the same gender. This sort of experience make us question our sexual identity and preference at an age when we were most vulnerable, hence, leaving lasting adversarial effects on ourselves. I, too, was molested by my own father when I was about 7 or 8 years old, and have been dealing with triggers and flashbacks most of my life. I am now 55 yrs old, married with 2 children. My oldest son is in college and my baby girl is a sophomore in high school. One major consolation for me is whenever I look at my 2 kids, I see purity, cleanliness, innocence, and what goodness life should be for those of us who are blessed.
Please be patient with yourself and your daily efforts to stay well. My thoughts are with you.