my mom knew of the verbal, emotional and physical abuse, for sure. and i don't see how she could have missed the s*xual abuse. she was present at least once when it was going on. i think that she must have rationalized it away or denied it ever happened. she was good at not facing reality.
i consider her a co-conspirator, an accomplice, an accessory, a collaborator - and hold her as equally accountable and guilty with the primary perp - her husband and the step-father that was forced upon me. from the time i realized that she was not going to help me - i never trusted her again.
"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself... And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity." - Paulo Coelho