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#414229 - 10/25/12 03:04 AM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
[Re: Undefeated]
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Registered: 12/12/11
Posts: 174
Loc: Colorado, USA
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I may be weird, but I would have preferred to see my perp's name on the list. First of all, it would be the first acknowledgment ever that he was an evil pedophile. Secondly, I would like to know if there were other victims. It would seem fitting his "good name" should appear on the pervert list. Right now, I am a lone voice in my accusation of what he did to me. It would be helpful if the accusations I make were confirmed by him being on the list, or more voices making the accusations together.
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#414232 - 10/25/12 05:39 AM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
[Re: Undefeated]
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Member MaleSurvivor
Registered: 07/13/12
Posts: 747
Loc: ation, Location
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I don't think it's weird at all Undefeated. And, as you know from my PMs, for EXACTLY the same reasons. For me it comes down to confronting The Lie.
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#414246 - 10/25/12 10:34 AM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
[Re: Undefeated]
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Registered: 12/12/11
Posts: 174
Loc: Colorado, USA
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I guess a good part of this is wanting some sort of acknowledgement that something bad did happen to us. That's a part of healing and for now, that hasn't happened to me. When I reported this to the BSA, I didn't get as much as an, "I'm sorry." Just, "Thank you for letting us know."
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"The sexual abuse and exploitation of children is one of the most vicious crimes conceivable, a violation of mankind's most basic duty to protect the innocent." ~James T. Walsh
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#414287 - 10/25/12 11:08 PM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
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Moderator MaleSurvivor
Registered: 02/26/08
Posts: 6237
Loc: USA
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The very fact that he was NOT on the list gives me a bunch of new information. Call it the "negative space" of circumstance. What is negative space? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negative_space
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#414496 - 10/27/12 11:10 PM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
[Re: Undefeated]
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Registered: 10/27/12
Posts: 12
Loc: in mountains both in my mind a...
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Hello, I don't know if this thread it dead but I too have a real desire to find my perps name on the files. As of yet it isn't there but I feel like I need to know if there were others.
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transition from cub scouts to boy scouts wasn't easy. It was hard to go from the safety of den mothers to the world of men and older boys.
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#414525 - 10/28/12 02:33 AM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
[Re: webelos]
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Registered: 12/12/11
Posts: 174
Loc: Colorado, USA
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Hello webelos! I hope this isn't a dead thread, because I am hoping someone else that was molested by my perp will come forward. I suspect you have checked this, but just in case there are two places with slightly different information: http://www.kellyclarkattorney.com/files/ http://spreadsheets.latimes.com/boyscouts-cases/ I hope something comes up for you and you. Let us know if it does. By the way, Welcome to MS. I see this is your first post. I am glad you are here to seek healing, but I am sorry that what happened to you, qualifies you to be here too.
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#414686 - 10/29/12 08:39 PM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
[Re: Undefeated]
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Registered: 10/27/12
Posts: 12
Loc: in mountains both in my mind a...
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I am sure the perps are over 75 years old so I guess that means there is no hope of finding them in the files? I know there are others that know what happened and it drives me crazy that I don't have anyone else to verify what I feel or think.
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transition from cub scouts to boy scouts wasn't easy. It was hard to go from the safety of den mothers to the world of men and older boys.
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#414695 - 10/29/12 09:35 PM
Re: Boy Scout Abuse - Where it happened/Other Victims
[Re: webelos]
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Registered: 10/25/12
Posts: 2
Loc: WI
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My abuser isn't on the list either. My troop is though, and there was another abuser in the troop around the time I was in the scouts. I winder how much more happened in that troop.
My abuser was a fellow scout a couple years older than me. He is dead now. I don't know if that makes me happy or sad.
Just because the person is not in the files doesn't mean you can't tell your story to the lawyers or anyone else.
I was horrified to understand how pervasive the abuse was and how well it was hidden...much like the Catholic church. I am sorry it happened to you. It wasn't your fault.
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