I got through my CSA issues with AA and MS.org, no problem there, the important p[art of it is that the survivor has a honest desire to get well and is totally Honest about his past.
What I cant figure is why the partners dont see the need to get help, I am not saying that there is something wrong with you, but I know how much I abused my wife. The lack of intimacy made her feel ugly, and If I did not have an excuse as to why I didn't want sex I would resort to insults, your fat, you don't turn me on, then there are the times when I was drunk and would say things like you money grabbing bitch and I don't love you I just tolerate you and on and on and on.
Now if you believe that you were not affected by that sort of behavior, well then you are wrong.
Please leave him to his healing, and you focus on yours. It is very important that you heal and are well when he is.
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