jb - that sounds pretty "normal" for someone withy your/our past. we often tend to either turn into s*x addicts or try to avoid it entirely. i was like you. i could not help myself. i had to get experienced, knowledgable, professional help from a good T - that eventually involved both me and my wife. it has really helped both of us. unfortunately i waited far too long and the ingrained habits make it much more difficult to change. but is possible and we are doing much better just in the past couple months. since you are recently married, there is much hope for you. do it now, before you waste years like i did!
"That you are here - that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. . . What will your verse be?" Robin Williams as John Keating in "Dead Poets Society"