jb - that sounds pretty "normal" for someone withy your/our past. we often tend to either turn into s*x addicts or try to avoid it entirely. i was like you. i could not help myself. i had to get experienced, knowledgable, professional help from a good T - that eventually involved both me and my wife. it has really helped both of us. unfortunately i waited far too long and the ingrained habits make it much more difficult to change. but is possible and we are doing much better just in the past couple months. since you are recently married, there is much hope for you. do it now, before you waste years like i did!
"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself... And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity." - Paulo Coelho