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#413144 - 10/15/12 02:12 AM Re: Life After Abuse: Forgiveness & Freedom [Re: M. J. Stewart]
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Registered: 10/04/12
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For me, the key was when I realised that my anger and hatred does absolutely nothing to my abusers, but it eats me up from inside. In a way, hanging on the anger allows them to still control me, even though both of them are dead. However, I prefer not to call it forgiveness, because that makes it sound like what they did is suddenly ok. I prefer to call it "letting go of the anger".

I have to confess, though, it is still a work in progress for me. I'm working at it, but its going slow, with a lot of back-sliding every time I feel like I've made good progress...
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#413482 - 10/18/12 05:18 AM Re: Life After Abuse: Forgiveness & Freedom [Re: crazy gecko]
M. J. Stewart Offline


Registered: 10/01/12
Posts: 20
Loc: PA
Originally Posted By: crazy gecko
For me, the key was when I realised that my anger and hatred does absolutely nothing to my abusers, but it eats me up from inside. In a way, hanging on the anger allows them to still control me, even though both of them are dead. However, I prefer not to call it forgiveness, because that makes it sound like what they did is suddenly ok. I prefer to call it "letting go of the anger".

I have to confess, though, it is still a work in progress for me. I'm working at it, but its going slow, with a lot of back-sliding every time I feel like I've made good progress...

I appreciate your honestly! Celebrate the process and progress!
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