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#412792 - 10/11/12 12:56 PM I never had this
Still Offline
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I never had this. Never experienced it once...ever.

Conclusions:

1) There's more to an abusive childhood than the inclusion of violence.

2) My suspicions and theories that this sort of "normal family" exists, is further supported.

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#412810 - 10/11/12 04:28 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
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Registered: 10/08/12
Posts: 83
Loc: USA
Me either, I suspect that family exists, but I've never seen them.

I'd probably freak out if anyone I considered family started acting like that.

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#412814 - 10/11/12 04:39 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
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My uncle's family is/was like that. They invited me to their home for christmas and I was honored to witness what a "real" family is like.
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#412833 - 10/11/12 06:32 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
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I feel for you, Still, and I share your conclusions.

Seeing the picture only makes me feel uncomfortable - like there must be something else going on. There is no way I would ever have gotten (or will get) that close to any member of my own family. Neither of my parents ever laughed like those people are, their smiles were always bitter or angry.

Like Magellan, in my case my partner's family have opened their arms to me and have allowed me to experience what life should be like.
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I won the moment he hurt me, because he poisoned his soul, and I did not poison mine. I did not hurt anyone. He did. He was the perp. He tried to make me into a victim, but I became a survivor. Yes.

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#412850 - 10/11/12 10:09 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
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Registered: 08/09/12
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Loc: New England
Still,

I have no photos of myself after the CSA. Its as if I ceased to exist. But I do have beautiful pictures of my own children with me and their Mom. The miracle is they have all turned out well despite having me for a father. Its one good thing thats happened in my life.

Jude
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To get another shrink.
I sit and tell him about my weekend,
But he never betrays what he thinks.
Can you see the real me, doctor?.
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#412851 - 10/11/12 10:22 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
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Jude,

I bet you made or helped those "good things" to "happen." Congratulations.

Geoff
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I won the moment he hurt me, because he poisoned his soul, and I did not poison mine. I did not hurt anyone. He did. He was the perp. He tried to make me into a victim, but I became a survivor. Yes.

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#412852 - 10/11/12 11:01 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
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Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 598
Loc: VA
I never had this (see photo above) either, and I'll bet not many of us did. My dad died when I was a toddler, my mom was distant and never re-married--no wonder I made such an enticing target for that perv.

But at this point, wishing my life was now very different is like wishing I didn't have my wife and kids, who are the greatest joys in my life.

John

"All you can do with your past is try to grow out of it. --Kevin Hearne, "Tricked"

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