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#412792 - 10/11/12 12:56 PM I never had this
Still Offline

Registered: 02/16/07
Posts: 6353
Loc: 2 NATO Nations
I never had this. Never experienced it once...ever.


1) There's more to an abusive childhood than the inclusion of violence.

2) My suspicions and theories that this sort of "normal family" exists, is further supported.

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#412810 - 10/11/12 04:28 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
Blue1966 Offline

Registered: 10/08/12
Posts: 83
Loc: USA
Me either, I suspect that family exists, but I've never seen them.

I'd probably freak out if anyone I considered family started acting like that.

#412814 - 10/11/12 04:39 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1388
Loc: California
My uncle's family is/was like that. They invited me to their home for christmas and I was honored to witness what a "real" family is like.
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#412833 - 10/11/12 06:32 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
GT13568 Offline

Registered: 09/02/11
Posts: 123
Loc: California
I feel for you, Still, and I share your conclusions.

Seeing the picture only makes me feel uncomfortable - like there must be something else going on. There is no way I would ever have gotten (or will get) that close to any member of my own family. Neither of my parents ever laughed like those people are, their smiles were always bitter or angry.

Like Magellan, in my case my partner's family have opened their arms to me and have allowed me to experience what life should be like.

#412850 - 10/11/12 10:09 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
Jude Offline

Registered: 08/09/12
Posts: 1466
Loc: New England

I have no photos of myself after the CSA. Its as if I ceased to exist. But I do have beautiful pictures of my own children with me and their Mom. The miracle is they have all turned out well despite having me for a father. Its one good thing thats happened in my life.

"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "
Joni Mitchell

#412851 - 10/11/12 10:22 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
GT13568 Offline

Registered: 09/02/11
Posts: 123
Loc: California

I bet you made or helped those "good things" to "happen." Congratulations.


#412852 - 10/11/12 11:01 PM Re: I never had this [Re: Still]
unhappycamper Offline

Registered: 10/21/11
Posts: 588
Loc: VA
I never had this (see photo above) either, and I'll bet not many of us did. My dad died when I was a toddler, my mom was distant and never re-married--no wonder I made such an enticing target for that perv.

But at this point, wishing my life was now very different is like wishing I didn't have my wife and kids, who are the greatest joys in my life.


"All you can do with your past is try to grow out of it. --Kevin Hearne, "Tricked"


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