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#407819 - 08/24/12 05:11 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Registered: 02/29/12
Posts: 642
Loc: Alabama
Ok. So here I am at my new T's office waiting for the appt. Of course I am 30 minutes early. I wonder I she has any clue about CSA. Wow all I can say is she is about to get a crash course if she doesnt. Ha. The wife is with me also
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Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

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#407836 - 08/24/12 09:18 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Registered: 02/29/12
Posts: 642
Loc: Alabama
First session with new T went well. She is a believer and she seems very well equipped for CSA issues an how it affect the brain. I was pretty impressed. She talked about tools and goals. Really good first session. I am so relieved right now. She seems very proactive and not reactive. I like that trait
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407850 - 08/24/12 11:21 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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I had a good first session with my new T this week as well. Was also apprehensive at first, but she turned out great.

Don't think I could have started recovery with a female therapist. Way too much shame at first for that. But now it will be good to work it out with a woman's perspective.
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#407852 - 08/24/12 11:35 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Agree on that. Thanks
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407908 - 08/25/12 06:08 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Wow. Work day at the hunting club. I am whipped. Ready to get home get a shower and get summ Mrs Country's cooking. We have 19k acres. Really. No way to take care of or learn that much land.
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407909 - 08/25/12 06:09 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Registered: 02/29/12
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Loc: Alabama
How did an ad get on my post?? Really. I didn't do that
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407966 - 08/26/12 07:51 AM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Registered: 08/23/12
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Loc: Australia
I agree with nltsaved!!!
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#408011 - 08/26/12 04:23 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Loc: Alabama
My opinion on this may be off but here is what I think. I think that when a person is sexually abused they are on of two types. Type 1 is a sex addict. One who feels like they need sex to make themselves feel worthy. They assaociate any type of touch to sexual feelings. This may also involve alot of porn and masturbation. Type 2 are the ones who feel repulsed by sex because it triggers them to the abuse they suffered. I think this type may even feel that seclusion is there any way to feel safe. There are probably so many different types but this , I think, are the 2 main types. I am interested to hear from others on this.
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#408091 - 08/27/12 01:44 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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I am amazed by the number of people we have here at this site. There is alot of survivors and spouses of survivors... I want to challenge those who sit back and read and don't post to take a step out of their comfort zone and start posting. I think I have learned alot by seeing what some people have been thru and what worked for them.
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#408141 - 08/27/12 08:15 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3513
Loc: somewhere in Africa
Originally Posted By: Country
I think that when a person is sexually abused they are on of two types. Type 1 is a sex addict. One who feels like they need sex to make themselves feel worthy. They assaociate any type of touch to sexual feelings. This may also involve alot of porn and masturbation. Type 2 are the ones who feel repulsed by sex because it triggers them to the abuse they suffered. I think this type may even feel that seclusion is there any way to feel safe.


yep - i agree.

that has been the story of my life - alternating betweeen the extremes.
secretly - type 1.
publicly - with other people - type 2.
really screwed up - either way.
no "happy medium" or "normal."

lee
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