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#413359 - 10/16/12 09:26 PM Re: Why are religious people so JUDGMENTAL? [Re: Magellan]
risingagain Offline
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Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication, says that all judgements are the tragic expressions of unmet needs.

So if someone is judging me, I simply choose to hear the need they are expressing through their judgement. "You people are so sick." I could ask- are you needing is to stay healthy? Are you afraid, because you need to know that you / your children will be safe? Are you needing to choose the experiences that are good for you?

Judgement is an endless trap and leads nowhere. That is why in Christianity & other religions they emphasize non judging. It's our small human minds that judge.

Realizing this has given me so much freedom from fear of being judged as a kinky gay man, survivor of abuse, and mentor to children. I can hear the real human needs people have instead of getting wrapped up in what they think of me (which is really about them).

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#413367 - 10/16/12 11:19 PM Re: Why are religious people so JUDGMENTAL? [Re: Magellan]
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"As you judge, so shall you be judged".

That, I think, summarizes Psychology 101, and 102, and 201, and 202, and 301, and 401/2A.


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#413371 - 10/17/12 01:20 AM Re: Why are religious people so JUDGMENTAL? [Re: Magellan]
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Why are Christians judgmental?

Oh, gee, that's so easy. They are either doing the sinning they are bitching about others they think are doing it, OR, 90% of the time, they are jealous they ain't doing it! lol Ignore them. They ain't Christian anyway just hypocrites.
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#413384 - 10/17/12 05:38 AM Re: Why are religious people so JUDGMENTAL? [Re: Magellan]
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Quote:
They ain't Christian anyway just hypocrites.


Agreed!

I like the NLT version of that verse a little better:
For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.

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