an hour or so ago when i logged in to MS i started reading new posts like usual - and was brought to tears twice.
once was by what i see as the best of what we can do FOR one another. it was a note of kindness, support and encouragement that was healing and helpful - and - YES - loving!
the other was by a thread that i see as what we can do TO one another if we are not careful. i don't think anyone really wanted to intentionally hurt or disrespect or alienate anyone else - but things got heated and people got upset and it all went way out of control.
as i was reading - and crying - i was hurting for each one who posted - regardless of which "side" they were on. and i pictured us ALL as scared, hurt, angry, little kids who had been abused. THEY are the ones who were lashing out - and THEY are the ones reacting. the 3-yr-old or 5-yr-old or 12-yr-old or 15-yr-old (sorry if i missed your age!) who was victimized and could do nothing to stop it or resist or repair the devastating effects.
i want to always remember this image when i see someone behaving in a way that i find personally triggering. it is not the fellow-survivor that i am retaliating against - it is a perp in my past. the guy on the MS forums who caused the trigger is another hurting little kid - just like me.
Love Grace & Peace to you ...
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"