an hour or so ago when i logged in to MS i started reading new posts like usual - and was brought to tears twice.
once was by what i see as the best of what we can do FOR one another. it was a note of kindness, support and encouragement that was healing and helpful - and - YES - loving!
the other was by a thread that i see as what we can do TO one another if we are not careful. i don't think anyone really wanted to intentionally hurt or disrespect or alienate anyone else - but things got heated and people got upset and it all went way out of control.
as i was reading - and crying - i was hurting for each one who posted - regardless of which "side" they were on. and i pictured us ALL as scared, hurt, angry, little kids who had been abused. THEY are the ones who were lashing out - and THEY are the ones reacting. the 3-yr-old or 5-yr-old or 12-yr-old or 15-yr-old (sorry if i missed your age!) who was victimized and could do nothing to stop it or resist or repair the devastating effects.
i want to always remember this image when i see someone behaving in a way that i find personally triggering. it is not the fellow-survivor that i am retaliating against - it is a perp in my past. the guy on the MS forums who caused the trigger is another hurting little kid - just like me.
Love Grace & Peace to you ...
We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9