Hi Dragon Boy,
Welcome to MS.
I am glad you have found this place of healing and support.
Many of the issues you mention - men being made out to be the monsters and women and children being made out to be the only
ones who are vulnerable to the various abuses are issues against which rail and fight daily. Many of us challenge sites which state they are for helping "women and children overcome the oppression/ abuse/ victimization by men."
Unfortunately, too many in society and those who do the work in the areas of abuse, forget (or don't care to realize) that males are vulnerable to the same abuses and that we aren't always the perpetrators. While it may seem to be an uphill battle, I do not see it as one in which we will not eventually be victorious. But things are not going to change overnight, or even soon enough to prevent secondary victimization to males who have been harmed.
Here at MS you will not be told that what you have and need to say isn't worth hearing. You will be supported and validated.
You do not say whether or not you are in therapy. If you feel therapy is an option, there are resources available. For help in finding a therapist please read the Consumers Guide to Therapist Shopping
. There are hotlines and counseling organizations in the UK that you can find here
. Please note the last resource, AEST.org, has closed.
There are several books you may find useful.
Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter
Victims No Longer by Mike Lew
I am certain others will share titles they have found useful. You can find these titles, and others here at the bookstore
Take your time and look around. You do not want to trigger yourself by reading too many posts at one time.
At your own pace, read the boards and wander into chat. The lounge (chat) is open 24 hours a day though it isn't always populated.
We also have moderated chats called Healing Circles.
They meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time and one on Tuesday at 19:00 UTC (European and African time zone) which translates to 2 PM Eastern US time zone. The Healing Circle on Tuesdays is scheduled to resume in January.
Again, welcome to MS.