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#410547 - 09/18/12 05:21 PM Sandusky article in New Yorker (triggering)
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I am not sure what to think of this article.

Only certain initially that the first few paragraphs were very triggering to me and reminiscent of my own experience when a family member (not me) was abused by a neighborhood man and the police recommended not pressing charges. THIS WAS IN 1970.In thirty-plus years not a thing had changed regarding community practices.
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#410548 - 09/18/12 05:21 PM Re: Sandusky article in New Yorker (triggering) [Re: GT13568]
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I won the moment he hurt me, because he poisoned his soul, and I did not poison mine. I did not hurt anyone. He did. He was the perp. He tried to make me into a victim, but I became a survivor. Yes.

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#410557 - 09/18/12 08:30 PM Re: Sandusky article in New Yorker (triggering) [Re: GT13568]
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Thanks for the link GT. We can skip JoePa. The rest of it sounds all too familiar as far as the way a perp positions himself. My CSA, too, was the same time as yours.

My perp was heavily involved with kids: BSA, church camp, HS teacher and guidance counselor, professional societies AND had wife/kids. An article written after his death goes into neauseating detail about the years of personal work and improvements he made to the church camp (including cutting a new trail to the boys cabins - go figure). To read it you'd think the man was a fucking saint. And, moving from teacher to guidance counselor, he put himself in a position to "help" troubled young teenage boys, like me. Bastard.

I'll add that 40 years on - though I can't speak to "community practices" - the institutions still have their heads in the sand.

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#410571 - 09/18/12 10:16 PM Re: Sandusky article in New Yorker (triggering) [Re: GT13568]
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And here in Smallville, I face the town leaders actively protecting a career rapist and pornographer.

I hate this NY article. I hate my town's elected fk-head-leaders and I hate perps into the fire.
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#410575 - 09/18/12 10:36 PM Re: Sandusky article in New Yorker (triggering) [Re: GT13568]
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Male Survivor posted this to Facebook, a rebuttal: http://deadspin.com/5944033/malcolm-glad...-out-some-facts
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#410612 - 09/19/12 09:53 AM Re: Sandusky article in New Yorker (triggering) [Re: GT13568]
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Malcolm Gladwell is a prima donna and a frickin' idiot. This just clenches it.
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