I am Gay so none of this applied to me at any time in my life. But....here they are...the privileges "granted" automatically to heterosexuals.......THIS SAYS A LOT ABOUT STEREOTYPES AND HOMOPHOBIA...WARNING TRIGGERS...........

ON a daily basis as a STRAIGHT person…
1.I can be pretty sure that my room mate, hall mates and class mates will be comfortable with my sexual orientation.
2.If I pick up a magazine, watch TV, or play music, I can be certain my sexual orientation will be represented.
3.When I talk about my heterosexuality (such as in a joke or talking about my relationships), I will not be accused of pushing my sexual orientation onto others.
4.I do not have to fear that if my family or friends find out about my sexual orientation there will be economic, emotional, physical or psychological consequences.
5.I did not grow up with games that attack my sexual orientation (IE Fag Tag or Smear the Queer).
6.I am not accused of being abused, warped or psychologically confused because of my sexual orientation.
7.I can go home from most meetings, classes, and conversations without feeling excluded, fearful, attacked, isolated, outnumbered, unheard, held at a distance, stereotyped or feared because of my sexual orientation.
8.I am never asked to speak for everyone who is heterosexual.
9.I can be sure that my classes will require curricular materials that testify to the existence of people with my sexual orientation.
10.People don’t ask why I made my choice of sexual orientation.
11.People don’t ask why I made my choice to be public about my sexual orientation.
12.I do not have to fear revealing my sexual orientation to friends or family. It’s assumed.
13.My sexual orientation was never associated with a closet.
14.People of my gender do not try to convince me to change my sexual orientation.
15.I don’t have to defend my heterosexuality.
16.I can easily find a religious community that will not exclude me for being heterosexual.
17.I can count on finding a therapist or doctor willing and able to talk about my sexuality.
18.I am guaranteed to find sex education literature for couples with my sexual orientation.
19.Because of my sexual orientation, I do not need to worry that people will harass me.
20.I have no need to qualify my straight identity.
21.My masculinity/femininity is not challenged because of my sexual orientation.
22.I am not identified by my sexual orientation.
23.I can be sure that if I need legal or medical help my sexual orientation will not work against me.
24.If my day, week, or year is going badly, I need not ask of each negative episode or situation whether it has sexual orientation overtones.
25.Whether I rent or I go to a theater, Blockbuster, an EFS or TOFS movie, I can be sure I will not have trouble finding my sexual orientation represented.
26.I am guaranteed to find people of my sexual orientation represented in my workplace.
27.I can walk in public with my significant other and not have people double-take or stare.
28.I can choose to not think politically about my sexual orientation.
29.I do not have to worry about telling my roommate about my sexuality. It is assumed I am a heterosexual.
30.I can remain oblivious of the language and culture of LGBTQ folk without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion.
31.I can go for months without being called straight.
32.I’m not grouped because of my sexual orientation.
33.My individual behavior does not reflect on people who identity as heterosexual.
34.In everyday conversation, the language my friends and I use generally assumes my sexual orientation. For example, sex inappropriately referring to only heterosexual sex or family meaning heterosexual relationships with kids.
35.People do not assume I am experienced in sex (or that I even have it!) merely because of my sexual orientation.
36.I can kiss a person of the opposite gender on the heart or in the cafeteria without being watched and stared at.
37.Nobody calls me straight with maliciousness.
38.People can use terms that describe my sexual orientation and mean positive things (IE “straight as an arrow”, “standing up straight” or “straightened out” ) instead of demeaning terms (IE “ewww, that’s gay” or being “queer” ) .
39.I am not asked to think about why I am straight.
40.I can be open about my sexual orientation without worrying about my job.

Bodyguard,

As a straight man I can see how society has hurt you and I am so sorry. The pain of your CSA is enough to deal with. You are welcome here without conditions, and I would give you a big hug if I could be there with you.

Gary,

Honey HUSH....you just make me so happy....thanks for that. Love you back. and I do take hugs over the internet...LOL


((((((((((Garydosh))))))))))))

well well put

its not the top forty one usually thinks about.

the only other thing i could think about was the as a str8 guy i could wear whatever i wanted. Its called style.

When I came out, I threw out or gave to charity almost all my clothes. Now I wear stuff that feel right for me. Clothes that fit reflects the correlation of my inner desire and my outer life that also now mesh.

thanks for a really flipping the perception of gay vs str8 on its head.

it should be required reading by everyon. Hopefully it will help those that think its a choice understand no one would ever CHOOSE to have this as the starting point in their daily life.

thanks so much

cheers

grant

I know I probably shouldn't say this but I have to take issue with number 30. Please PLEASE could people stop using the GLBTQ acronim to mean 'gay' the T is not silent! Many transgendered people are straight.

I'm sorry but that is a pet hate of mine.

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i just re-read number 30 , i dont know his mind . All i got from that was that he was expressing that born one gender folk dont really think about lgbtq folks in any way. Sort of like at fox news just giving one view or us thinking the president or pope or queen or anyone in power always speaks the truth and represents the whole story.

i got from that , that transgendered people are not considered one of them normal types whether straight or gay, or male to female, or female to male or intersexed.

Just that those who have only one narrow view arent really seeing others as they are. You didnt chose to be who you are, surgery may be a choice but who you really are is not up for debate.

I was talking to a really good looking man , we chatted and he told me he was a new man, and ironically i told him i was too. He said that if he had not had sexual reassignment surgery, he would not be here. I said if i had not been finally ok with being gay I would not be here either. Understanding I had same sex attraction was one thing, but accepting that thats really who and what i am was a way bigger step and a much more fulfilling one. He felt the same. being a woman was not who he was. he knew he couldnt survive anything other than who he truly was in his , heart , mind and libido. I have no idea if he was straight or gay. to be honest i dont really understand that if he is now a man and has sex with a man, does that make him gay or is he straight cuz he was a woman and his dna is female . Its the hormones and surgery and his damn fine beard that make him male, so is he str8 or gay then if he has sex with men? I havent a clue and i dont care. He is happy, and he is a T.
oh yes , a survivor too.

cheers and hugs

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Dragon Boy,

By the way, LOVE The name, I too was inspired by The grand Mythical Flying Serpents!! On to your comment, You say that people are using the GLBTQ Acronym to mean "gay" and your point is that many Trans people are straight.

If you review the original posting, (shown here in part for clarity)

29.I do not have to worry about telling my roommate about my sexuality. It is assumed I am a heterosexual.
30.I can remain oblivious of the language and culture of LGBTQ folk without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion.
31.I can go for months without being called straight.
32.I’m not grouped because of my sexual orientation.

You might notice the speaker or writer's point of view is as a STRAIGHT person. Litererally it says that ....AS A STRAIGHT PERSON I can remain oblivious of the language and the culture of LGBTQ folk without feeling in my culture any penalty for such oblivion. It doesn't matter if I understand it or not. -----If you follow through to a gay person's point of view, you get this message:

AS A Gay person I have to be aware of the culture and language in use by LGBTQ Folk or I FEEL PENALIZED and EXCLUDED for my ignorance. I may not know the common denominators by which future friends, possible lovers, or even mates will judge whether or not I am "one of them".

Having stated all that, I submit that the meaning is not that Trans people are lumped into the same group as Gay people....The POINT is that STRAIGHT PEOPLE ARE NOT DISCRIMINATED AGAINST For their lack of knowledge of culture and language...they are accepted in every circle regardless of not understanding pop culture references that other straights identified with.

If you think that Trans Gender Straight persons don't have to understand pop culture references, language, and be able to navigate subtle shades of meaning then I think you are mistaken. It isn't the acronym that is to blame for the inclusion of the Trans world with the Gay world, it is that the straight world discriminates against you.

We are brothers whether you are straight or not..Whether you desire to be so or not....what remains is knowing that they will band together to hate us, will we join them? Or will we strive to be open, inclusive, non-judgemental, and love others as we desire to be loved.

For my part, I love you. Even if you don't agree. I just wanted to explain what I thought to be true.

Geoff