Just me, I know in my case, I told my wife after she left me and I knew she was gone for good. She had moved out and was getting a new house. I told her for closure for her own peace of mind to let her know that it was not because of her or anything she did/didn't do. She returned home and has helped me tremendously. I wish that same support for you my friend. It is an awesome felling to have you wife in full disclosure and still accept you. We come to realize that we are worth something even tho our brains tell us we are not. I am happy for you and will pray for you an her. Best of luck on your journey bro.
Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her