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#407525 - 08/22/12 08:05 AM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Registered: 02/29/12
Posts: 642
Loc: Alabama
Thanks Jim. I am going to add my thoughts in this post as I go. I have alot more to share or get out there so other survivors don't feel alone I'm their thoughts or feelings
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407526 - 08/22/12 08:08 AM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Lancer]
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I have also Lancer. Lee gets his points across quite well.
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407541 - 08/22/12 10:17 AM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Ok let me get this right. I have a great job and I am blessed in that area of my life. But , If I was born with a condition which disabled me from working or had a wreck and was severely disabled then I could get disability. There are tons of survivors with PTSD and other illnesses / trauma that affected there brains and have them scared to go out in public and do they get squat? Do they , I don't know but I was wondering this morning about this.


Edited by Country (08/22/12 10:18 AM)
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407542 - 08/22/12 10:34 AM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Registered: 07/13/12
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Loc: Florida
Speaking for myself - HIV for 20 years - I tried The System. It was dehumanizing, humiliating and frustrating. Eventually I decided the stress was doing me more harm than any good I could hope to gain. Some of my friends are built of sterner stuff.

I may yet try again. In a sense, though, I prefer this choice. My struggles are overcoming my own limitations, not overcoming (or submitting to) a mindless bureaucracy. Those times I am successful, it's all mine.

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#407543 - 08/22/12 10:38 AM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Instead of me confronting my abusers which could lead to physical outburst. One is my uncle , I think I will write them a letter telling them in all the ways they messed my life up and my mind. I do forgive them but I have never confronted them about it. I want them to know the money, tears, and pain they have caused me. I want them to know that they are or were predators and that they will be held accountable for their actions one day by the big Boss man. Maybe twy have changed their lives and I hope they didn't abuse anyone else. I will demand a rely and some answers to questions I have like what age did you start abusing me uncle?? Why did u choose me? How many others did u abuse? Have u went to therapy for your issues? I am not seeking financial compensation fr them for my therapy cost although I think they should have to pay that. I am seeking a sincere heartfelt apology and I want them to know what they done was wrong and unacceptable and immorale
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407544 - 08/22/12 10:41 AM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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I was unaware for your HIV lancer. Sorry to hear about that. I bet the system was tough for you and I hear it is for all. Why tho? I mean let's say u was in a car wreck and got ur leg cut off then it would be NO problem. Get molested and abused as a kid and have sooo many issues it is hard to live much less work and deal with that too and they act like u are just going to be ok because u r a man now. What a system we have. I respect our government but I believe it is used in all the wrong ways.


Edited by Country (08/22/12 12:10 PM)
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407552 - 08/22/12 01:03 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Being survivors I think it is easy for us to put our kids first, before anything, that is wrong of us. Yes we should protect them and be involved and raise them in the right manner but our spouse should be above out kids. We have made our kids feel entitled ad it is getting out of hand. We need to let them know that they do not run the house. We Ned to let them see that outlet wife comes before them. They don't always get to go first or open gifts first at Christmas. This is all part of what I think is wrong with society today and how we have gotten to the point we are today. Kids don't want to work fr anything. They feel like it should be given to them. They feel like they will just automatically have a great job and nice house and the same ara that their parents have. They are removed from most reality and it is mostly or all our fault. We raised them. We allowed it. We basically said it is OK because we didn't stop it. Ok I am done with this rant session. Sorry if I offend some and that is not my intention but sometimes toe stepping is good.


Edited by Country (08/22/12 07:09 PM)
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407572 - 08/22/12 04:32 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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A sad but true statement. There are more people that care about PETA's stance and issues than male survivors. More people give to the humane society than to male survivor.


Edited by Country (08/22/12 07:05 PM)
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407579 - 08/22/12 07:08 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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I was thinking about Monkey while ago while I was cutting grass and hoping that his " telling the group" goes well for him and helps him heal. I was thinking about Avery as well an wondering how he has been and doing with his kids and grand kids. I was thinking about Just Scott and his powerful skit about letting go of the chains that hold u down. I was also thinking about maybe starting my letter to my abusers.
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Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

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#407597 - 08/22/12 09:41 PM Re: To be honest with you. My thoughts [Re: Country]
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Go figure, I cut the grass to let my mind go blank ;-)

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