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#407561 - 08/22/12 01:57 PM Internalized Homophobia
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#407602 - 08/22/12 10:44 PM Re: Internalized Homophobia [Re: bodyguard8367]
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I believe lots of gay men have had this struggle to some extent or another. Hopefully, that is getting better for successive younger generations as better information gets out there.

I try to keep in mind that not every straight person has the easiest time of things when it comes to sexuality either. We're all on a journey and our sexuality is just a part of it.

But, there is definitely some common ground of repression experiences among gay men given the cultural bias towards it.

I think one thing that isn't stressed enough about internalized homophobia is owning it when you have some as a gay man. Chances are you're not going to be able to correct something you can't admit to having in the first place when it is there.



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#407676 - 08/23/12 04:27 PM Re: Internalized Homophobia [Re: bodyguard8367]
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As an aside I went out on sat with a young couple who are out and proud. They are of the new generation that KC speaks of. They are unashamed and were both raised in a healthy a community so they've never been closeted. They also have the best words. They were calling people and places "bourgie" before the phrase itself became so bourgie.

Last sat they taught me about LUGs. Lesbians Until Graduation at which point the former lesbian is suddenly engaged to a power broker. Doug wondered aloud why this happened in plain sight for females but not for males. I saw he looked puzzled when I spoke to the stigmatizion men may feel, unlike females who enjoy somewhat of a higher stature as lipstick lesbians. Anyway he said I was very knowledgeable but that was simply because I was so old. Little wanker.



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#407830 - 08/24/12 08:13 PM Re: Internalized Homophobia [Re: bodyguard8367]
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I can relate. I have had internalized homophobia for many years. I just didn't know what it was. I simply did not want to be gay, and still don't. There's just not much I can do about it other than accept it. I heard this term for the first time 2 days ago in a therapy session, and it has hit home.

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#407882 - 08/25/12 11:15 AM Re: Internalized Homophobia [Re: bodyguard8367]
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