Much success on this process. It is just that, a process of finding the balance that allows you to worship alongside others of like faith, friends and family. How much does a sexual abuse survivor disclose? How much do others need to know about each other and still be able to serve God?
The answer fellow survivor, is a matter of faith. Whom did Jesus reach out to, whom did he seek out? Lepers, fishermen, tax collectors, thieves, temple prostitutes, those who had a right heart condition and were seeking salvation through the Christ. The body of Christians in the first century did not sit together "AA" style and tell of their transgressions. Instead, as Hebrews 10: 23, 24 and 25 tells us, with public declaration of their hope, they incited to love and fine works, never forsaking the gathering of themselves together, encouraging one another. Today we follow the example of those fine Christians. They focused on publicly declaring their hope, loving and encouraging one another. Shortcomings were forgiven "77" times, Jesus taught to love as he loved, to die for each other. So too, we must today learn to go as far as death to support each other.
Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, it will give you a hopeful perspective. If you feel the need to disclose the past or feelings of unworthiness, read James 5:14. Disclosing is an important step for survivors, read http://www.malesurvivor.org/ArchivedPages/singer3.html
Welcome to faith, hope and courage Steve, in our fellow Christians, in our Lord, His Son and us, we are worthy of righteousness, God tells us we are.