I have found that I my case I am super sensitive to being criticized. I usually take it negative and get my feelings hurt. As a survivor I guess it is my desire to make other think I was normal for acceptance to try and cover up my abuse. Thru therapy and my wife's help I has learned that it is not always negative talk at me when i am criticized.
Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her