I was not going to respond to this thread but I keep reading it over and over... and I think I now know why.
You say no one wants to be the poster boy for sexual abuse. True that. But at the same time we all cry out for greater understanding. So change starts at home. I've contacted a local agency, the King County Sexual Assault Resource Center
to volunteer as a public speaker about abuse. I was thinking on it a long time but I did it today because of this thread. You may be frustrated with the circumstances you encounter in your daily life, but don't underestimate the power your words can have to influence others. This is what I wrote today:
I wish an oganization such as this was around 30+ years ago when I fell victim to sexual abuse. I was abducted and sexually abused not far from my home as a six year old child in 1978. As a male it is especially hard for me to come to terms with the emotions of shame and low self-esteem that follow all abuse survivors, sometimes for years. I am a whole person again and as an example of triumph over abuse I am volunteering my message and my time.
With your permission, I wish to bring this survivors story out of the shadows in order to educate, illuminate and heal. I'm willing to contribute in any way I can either through live speaking presentations, recorded video or through my writings. I've already amassed an archive of writings on a support site that I frequent called MaleSurvivor.org. It is because there are so few advocate survivors, especially males, that I humbly offer myself.
As an aside, many sexual abuse victims carry a gender bias. There are people in the recovery community that have strong feelings one way or another because they believe all men are latent perps or, conversely, all women are hogging the "rape spotlight" and men are exempted from resources earmarked for females. I do not carry these biases and one of my goals is to bridge theese divides.
I hope that I am able to assist this organization. I look forward to your response.