Well done courageous woman.
There is a glaring part missing here. Does your man know the effects that abuse have on survivors
, does he understand the things that happen in a survivors head?
There is a Brochure
online and I have one on my blog (click on the link)
We are all different but we think more or less the same, so show him what the effects of CSA are and he might be more inclined to get help.
Most men would go through the mid-life crisis at about 40 or in the mid forties, from the sounds of things he is there or there abouts.
Don't give up and there is a lot of support here, so keep coming back, better still try to get him to come here.