First i want to wish you a very Happy birtday. To try to help you and share things whit you, I am also in the same situation as you I do want to have sex but can't. I honestly think it is because of my abuse. I know for a reason i am scare to have sex. I also have a very suportive wife. She as also her frustrations, but we manage to have sex. I would like to offer you my hand.
By the way recently i suggest we go my wife and me to get help.
I like crying under the rain, because no one knows I hurt.