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#40508 - 02/07/03 02:53 PM Re: Michael Jackson
nethos_1 Offline
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Registered: 11/04/02
Posts: 9
Loc: colorado
In his defense \:\( ! Do any of you see that he could be "one of us" Do you think that maybe he could see some of the things he does as being okay because of all the things he's been through? Does anybody know all about him in the first place? I don't think so. I think I might have a lot in common with Michael with me being so strange \:\( ..... I see a lot of things about him that even I would consider strange but I do understand where he comes from. I have to be "unorthadoxed" with a great deal of my treatment and my survival non of which is perpetrating and I don't believe he does either. I don't believe he would hurt a kid much less a fly without crippling remorse. You can see his heart through all the pain, how else would he be so "wierd" as some of us are "wierd"? You can obviously see how much of a kid he is himself still, something was taken away from him also. You judge me when judging him because in the same sense I feel the need for protection and none of you know how vulnerable I might be, I've had friends "pertect" me my being in the same room also because I HAVE ISSUES TOO! Besides.... don't you think those kids' parents way back when, would have rather had Michaels conviction rather than the money????


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#40509 - 02/07/03 07:23 PM Re: Michael Jackson
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
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Loc: England Shropshire
Nethos
yes, I can see many similarities between Jacksons problems and ours. His childhood was a mess, his father was violent and demanding and he had unimaginable wealth as a kid. Nothing was normal at all for him. So I agree that he's the way he is now due to the way he grew up.

His problem however is that he doesn't recognise that he's in a mess, we do - you obviously do to come here as well.
He's living as a child in amongst people who wont, for whatever reasons, tell him the stark truth. And he hasn't recognised it for himself.

For all his craziness it's still hard not to feel some pity and understanding for him. I hope this exposure will be a turning point for him. But he'll have to make an effort to return to the real world first.

Dave

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#40510 - 02/07/03 08:23 PM Re: Michael Jackson
Mark S Offline
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Registered: 08/25/02
Posts: 130
Loc: England
I agree with Dave and at the end of the day if all he is guilty of is being a survivor, their can be no harm in the justice system having a look at the situation.

Nethos, you mention that his last victims parents would have surely have wanted a conviction rather than settling for money, but that assumes a great deal about that persons parents. There are many parents who (sadly) sell their children into prostitution.

I'm not suggesting that he be sentenced on the outcome of an interview, but maybe a little further look into his actions might have been appropriate.

Mark


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#40511 - 02/08/03 01:04 PM Re: Michael Jackson
MrDon Offline
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Loc: Deltona, FL
I didn't get to see the interview but have read the accounts of it in the news media. I really feel for Michael Jackson although I think he needs to stop running in life and take a good long look at himself.

The part that really bothers me greatly is how he likes to sleep with young boys. If it was his own children that were JUST sleeping in a bed with him much like many children do from time to time.. that is one thing. But I've got a feeling that it is much more than that. I know he's got money to basically buy freedom but it angers me that it is not being investigated.

My two cents worth....

And hoping that this world will wake up and begin to treat our children with the respect they deserve, not what adults feel they have to give out of obligation.

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#40512 - 02/09/03 12:10 AM Re: Michael Jackson
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
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To my knowledge Michael Jackson has never said he was sexually abused. Still he apparently was abused physically & verbally and in that sense is a survivor.

Or to be more accurate, from my perspective, he is a victim. It doesn't seem to me MJ has moved to survivor yet. He is still using his childhood abuse as an excuse for, well, seemingly everything, including sexually abusing children, which I think sleeping with children is, even if he isn't doing anything else.

That he is still excusing his abusive behavior, in spite of all the money & fame he has (which just goes to show these aren't everything!), is what aggravates me about MJ.

I suffered plenty of abuse myself, grew up poor, sure never have or will get rich or famous (don't especially care to either), and I haven't abused my children or anybody else's.

Doesn't make me better than him; that's not the issue. I just find his arrogance irritating & his abusiveness frightening & very triggering.

He tries to make it sound so nice & innocent, so loving & nurturing. Reminds me way too damned much of my mother...

Victor

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#40513 - 02/10/03 01:11 AM Re: Michael Jackson
jaketk Offline
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Registered: 09/26/02
Posts: 49
Loc: illinois
Okay, I think we have a problem then. I let my cousin sleep next to me sometimes, and my neighbor's son has fallen asleep with a few times. So, that makes me a pedophile, right? Granted, I haven't been accused of assaulting any child, nor do I change my face every year, or make my kids wear masks, or dangle my infant from a balcony, but I'm not making the connection. It's sleep. Since when did sleeping next to someone become a crime?

I'm not sure whether Jackson has done anything sexual to any child. I didn't get that from him, or the boy they interviewed, though it was being radiated by the reporter. I find it odd that he wants to sleep with a child, not that he does. But I think it has more to do with him trying to reclaim what he never had growing up than it does with sex or harm. That he doesn't acknowledge his problem isn't unusual, nor surprising.

Obviously he's using his money to avoid the authorities, and his actions are definitely strange. That nothing has been done to him when it would have with a less known person says more about the system, and the power of money.

jake


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#40514 - 02/10/03 08:52 AM Re: Michael Jackson
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
RIGHT ON. I think he is trying to recapture something he lost. I do think he is wierd and that his money protects him. As power protects others. Remeber we are the great unwashed, pay the freight and suffer the consequences. I do believe that sleep is sleep. When children are terrified of something they seek strength from adults who care for them. In my case my daughter received obscene phone calls at the age of 7 from an ex hospital employee who had access to patient records. He picked on the name TANYA. For months Tanya had to sleep between my wife and I and she was terrified when the phone rang. She did recover and went to sleep in a sleeping bag next to our bed in about 3 months. She is now a well adjusted, and if I do say so, a drop dead gorgeous woman in 4th year university and sitll remembers the comfort we gave her.

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#40515 - 02/10/03 11:01 AM Re: Michael Jackson
Wuamei Offline
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Registered: 08/19/02
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Jake, Mike:

What the two of you did/do is quite different, as you yourselves pointed out, from what Michael Jackson did & does.

At least one boy he slept with did say MJ sexually abused him. This was the case MJ settled out of court financially in 1993.

Yes, I do think Michael is looking for his lost childhood. Apparently he was abused, tho he's never said anything about being abused sexually. He was pushed out of childhood into the early adulthood of fame & wealth & power. But I still think he's abusing that, using it as an excuse to abuse children.

It just doesn't seem that the way for an adult to find their childhood is in sleeping with "other" children...

Victor

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#40516 - 02/10/03 10:01 PM Re: Michael Jackson
jaketk Offline
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Registered: 09/26/02
Posts: 49
Loc: illinois
this is a link to the deposition of the 13 yr old boy that accused jackson of abuse.

fair warning, it's not easy to read.

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/mjdec1.html

jake


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#40517 - 02/11/03 06:27 AM Re: Michael Jackson
Jess Offline
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Registered: 01/26/03
Posts: 107
Loc: California
Jake,
Thanks for posting that link of the declaration. After reading it I don't see how anyone can believe that MJ is not a child sexual abuser. Some of that boy's story was a little like mine. Tough to read. Thanks, Jess.


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