There is a movie out there about male survivors and well somehow your husband needs to realize that he is not the only one suffering out there. HE is NOT ALONE.
So next step is, Don't give up, Don't stop what you are doing. Never give up your gains. I am really heartened by reading that you are doing so well.
Its all up to him now and as long as you live and do what you are doing he will either have to adjust or leave, but often leaving is just to scary an option for him.
Give him as much material as you can about other survivors, brochures movies books websites and the likes.
Keep going Girl, never give up, but mostly remember your happiness.
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