Which is worse?
a hole, a void, a lack, an absence?
Or a step-father:
angry, demeaning, cruel, abusive?
Even a real father:
cold, perfectionistic, rejecting, unloving?
And how could you compare?
I know the first and second – but not the third.
My half-brother knows only the third – not the others.
We cannot measure and compare all three.
Even though two out of three
are one and the same.
We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9