Which is worse?
a hole, a void, a lack, an absence?
Or a step-father:
angry, demeaning, cruel, abusive?
Even a real father:
cold, perfectionistic, rejecting, unloving?
And how could you compare?
I know the first and second – but not the third.
My half-brother knows only the third – not the others.
We cannot measure and compare all three.
Even though two out of three
are one and the same.
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"