I Found this site from an article on ESPN by Jane McManus as She excoriated the Penn State world through the eyes of a survivor!
Maybe one of you guys.

I'm 59 years old and was Sexually abused by My older Brother in law when I was a youngster.

It wasn't until I was a about 40 until I could utter those words.
Strong and silent! Not so strong on the inside though.
I have never had any counseling, choosing instead to bear this thing silently and processed the self loathing lifestyle through depression, laughter and lashing out.
I have however made it through to this point in my life. I would not recommend my route to anyone, especially you young guys who have a chance to live as normal a life as you can by seeking help early.
I have been lucky enough to be married for 40 years and have two great kids. I function quite well day to day but like all of you. I have those moments. This moment triggered by the Sandusky/Penn State tragedy.
Stay strong and know that we are not throw away people. We are worthy. If I was a real religious person. My admonition to you all would be "God Bless You"

Hey, Northwoods,
That's a lot.and a long time...to carry such a heavy secret. I know and most others here know as well.
I hope this site helps you as much as it has helped me and others like me who find it comforting just to know it isn't our fault, that we're not nuts because we show symptoms, and we are able to recover and survive it all. Most of all, it helps to know we're not alone and we don't have to carry this alone.
You've got a worldwide network of helpful and understanding brothers now. Welcome to MS.

Welcome to Male survivor New Old guy !
Indeed we are worthy, your story is example for that, thanks for sharing with us and bringing some hope!
Pero

Welcome. You will find friends and comfort here.

Hi Northwoods

Welcome to this site. I am sure that you will find support and understanding from the many great and wise men here that have helped me on my own journey.

I was sexually abused by my older brother from the age of 8 - among others - and could also only utter those words when I was about 40. Like you I have tried to walk the road to recovery without counseling, and although I believe I am coping, I realize now that at some stage I will need help.

Good luck to you
DB

Hi Northwoods,

Welcome to MS.

I am glad you have found this place of healing and support.

I know you said you have not been in therapy for this. Buf if you decide that therapy is an option, there are several resources available. For help in finding a therapist please read the Consumers Guide to Therapist Shopping. Psychology Today has listings of therapists for all states and counties. You can choose the type of therapist you are seeking as well as the area(s) to which you are willng to travel. Also check your county rape crisis center. They offer services to males and females, at no cost to county residents. Some offer support groups in addition to individual therapy.

There are several books you might find useful.

Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter

Victims No Longer by Mike Lew

I am certian others will share titles they have found useful. You can find these titles, and others here at the bookstore.

Take your time and look around. You do not want to trigger yourself by reading too many posts at one time.

At your own pace, read the boards and wander into chat. The lounge (chat) is open 24 hours a day though it isn't always populated.

We also have moderated chats called Healing Circles. They meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time and one on Tuesday at 19:00 UTC (European and African time zone) which translates to 2 PM Eastern US time zone. The Healing Circle on Tuesdays is scheduled to resume in September.

Again, welcome to MS.




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