women don't really want to date men who were sexually abuse, only a few wouldn't mind, I don't want to be seen as weak and I don't want to have sex with her knowing I had sex with my dad, it's only fair to have both who were abused, that's the only way I would really feel comfortable
I wouldn't disclose my abuse to someone I was dating unless I had been seeing them for quite awhile and knew they really cared for me. You're probably going to end up having sex with someone you're dating before that ever gets brought up unless you bring it up.
Robert is really spot on about the oversharing and issues you will encounter if you and/or the person you're seeing hasn't dealt with past abuse.
I'm discovering all this as I've started dating again, it really sucks. I've found that I still have a lot of work to do for my own recovery. Honestly I'm sick of it, sick of trying, sick of failing, sick of being fucked up, and no one caring.