Yea that was very sweet Herowannabe, beautifully put and you summed up the fantasy of so many women out there. Romance, tenderness, focused attention, yes we want that!!
Of course there is great variety among women, to one woman scrubbing that moldy petrified pan in the sink says "I love you" while another would be thrilled to have 1 hour of computer-free focused attention every night. So......I recommend ASKING your darling wife.
For me, and I realize how un-fun and un-sexy this sounds, telling the truth and owning up to his responsibilities say "I honor you and I take our relationship seriously." It says "I'm a capable, powerful masculine man who is reliable, and you're safe to be vulnerable with me." Yes I still want flowers and breakfast in bed, and an occasional tender kiss on the forehead, but those mundane things like taking the cat to the vet, loading the dishwasher or paying a bill, those show me that he cares about our lives together.
For a wife who has recently undergone the trauma of rape (if I am recalling correctly?), she may have some special needs, so again I really encourage you to just ask her. When i was working through some of my trauma history, him coming to therapy appointments and really listening to me, helped more than 100000000 surprise trips to Paris ever would have. Just listening and putting aside his own needs for a while, was the ultimate in romance!! Good luck Martin.