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#40128 - 07/17/02 02:47 AM I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
RJD Offline
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Registered: 02/18/01
Posts: 326
Loc: jefferson City, Mo,usa
I DID IT!!! I'M 56 YEARS OLD AND I GRADUATED WITH A MASTERS!!!

IT FEELS LIKE A DREAM COME TRUE, BUT WITH A
REALITY SHOW SIDE TO IT.
27 YEARS AGO I FLUNKED OUT OF COLLEGE BECAUSE OF POOR
GRADES AND BY NOT OFICIALLY WITHDRAWING FROM SCHOOL.
I SECRETELY WONDERED IF I WASN'T REALLY RETARDED. I WAS
PROFOUNDLY DEPRESSED AND SUICIDAL. I LIVED AND BREATHED
SUICIDAL IDEATION NIGHT AND DAY. I SOUGHT RELIEF, WITH
THESE THOUGHTS, FROM THE AGONIZING PAIN FROM MY CHILDHOOD.
I SOUGHT OUT A SUICIDE HOTLINE AND WITH INCOMPETENT
GUIDANCE, I WENT FROM THE FRYING PAN INTO THE FIRE (HE USED
THE TIME TO REASSURE HIS OWN HETEROSEXUALITY.)
AFTER YEARS OF RECOVERY WORK, I FINALLY GRADUATED FROM
COLLEGE IN 1999 WITH MUCH SUPPORT FROM MY WIFE AND
DAUGHTERS. I DECIDED TO RISK GOING FOR A DREAM AND
BECOMING AN ART THERAPIST. I MISSED THE DEADLINES FOR
SOME OF THE LESS EXPENSIVE SCHOOLS. I DECIDED TO TRY THE
CADALLAC OF ART SCHOOLS EVEN THOUGH TO DO SO WAS SILLY
BECAUSE I COULDN'T AFFORD IT ANYWAY AND THEY REALLY
SHOULDN'T WANT ME. I HAD 3 HOURS BEFORE I WOULD MISS
THE DEADLINE FOR APPLICATION. A FEW WEEKS LATER I RECIEVED
TWO LETTERS. I SET THE LETTERS ON THE SOFA TO GET SOME
COFFEE TO BRACE MYSELF FOR THE BAD NEWS. I FINALLY OPENED
THE FIRST LETTER AND SPENT 2-3 MINUTES LOOKING FOR THE WORD
"NOT" IN FRONT OF THE WORD ACCEPTED AND COULD NOT FIND IT. I WAS NUMB.
I WENT FOR THE SECOND LETTER AND IT WAS A FULL SCHOLARSHIP.
I WAS INCREDIBLY EXCITED BUT DEEP IN MY GUT I SUSPECTED THEY
HAD MADE A GRAVE MISTAKE ACCEPTING ME. DONT THEY KNOW I'M
REALLY STUPID? I WAS IN FULL CRISIS. I SPENT MOST OF MY LIFE
SELF-IDENTIFIED AS A CHRONIC UNDERACHIEVER.
I'M NOW ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE 2-YEAR PROGRAM.
I HAVE MONITORED AND CARED FOR THE ADOLESCENT BOY IN ME
WELL ENOUGH TO SUCCESSFULLY COMPLETED A GRADUATE
PRORAM. ( I STILL WAIT FOR THE OTHER SHOE TO DROP).
I FEEL LIKE I'VE REACHED OZ AND THE EMERALD CITY. THE WIZARD HAS OFFICIALLY
PROCLAIMED ME AN INTELLECT AS OF LAST MAY.
I HAVE CLAIMED MY OWN COURAGE BY USING MY OWN STORY AS A CASE STUDY FOR MY THESIS. I KNOW I HAVE A HEART. I CLAIMED THAT A WHILE BACK.

------- BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELVES
----------------- RJD
--------- PLEASE WISH ME WELL


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#40129 - 07/17/02 03:20 AM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Brian B14 Offline
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Registered: 05/04/01
Posts: 122
Loc: New York
RJD,

CONGRATULATIONS!!! You should be proud of yourself! It's amazing what survivors can do if they put their minds to it! You are proof of that!
We are all VERY proud of you!

God Bless,

Brian


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#40130 - 07/17/02 10:14 AM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Redsongbird Offline
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Registered: 12/01/01
Posts: 209
RJD

CONGRAT!!!!!! This is very encouraging because I am back in college also. What a great idea to use yourself as your thesis!!!

CONGRATS AGAIN!!

Terry


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#40131 - 07/17/02 11:19 AM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Muldoon Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 05/30/02
Posts: 1428
Loc: St Paul MN
RJD
Great news ,it just shows you what we can do if we have the mind to and support behide us. So many times we just give up before we even get started.
The outside world can,t look inside us and see all the pain we have, so to most we are normal. A full ride from the top school show just how good you are.
It is great
how the sprits above have moved, and brings us together.
RJD I can use your help. I have just begun my next mission in life and need your expert to move it forward.
Teach the children to never hid in the silence, is what it's all about. Read my post from around June 7. I need artist to help create poster that can be put up in schools and playgrounds and where ever kid are to remind them to come forward and tell on those that abuse. I work in printing and know how to get this project onto paper but need help on the creative side. I have also been thinking about seeing if we could put it on the computers in the classrooms as an sign in screen,
The ART is the main element in all this. Look forward to talking with you about this.
Muldoon

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#40132 - 07/17/02 12:02 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
SoCalJohn Offline
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Registered: 05/18/01
Posts: 510
Loc: Los Angeles, California
RJD,

Awesome dude!!! Congrats to ya! ;\)

John

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I asked him about this law he spoke of, he said,,, *watch* he then asked the others to share about their lives,,, the others talked of how things were for them, how things worked in their lives,,, and as they believed, it was so.

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#40133 - 07/17/02 12:29 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Lloydy Offline
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Registered: 04/17/02
Posts: 7071
Loc: England Shropshire
RJD
I'm so inspired by what you have achieved, so many of us reach middle age ( I hate saying that ) in the same frame of mind, believing our underachieving is deep and permanent, it isn't.
It's a by product of our history and you've proved that.
Well done.
Lloydy \:D

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Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler.
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#40134 - 07/17/02 03:19 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
michael Joseph Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 03/11/01
Posts: 2719
Loc: Virginia
that is wonderful, a lot of hard work too!!!!
congradulations.

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#40135 - 07/17/02 04:25 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Cement Offline
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Registered: 06/05/02
Posts: 740
Loc: Southern California
Congratulations! Congratulations! Congratulations!

You should be very proud of yourself. I am proud of and inspired by your accomplishment.

Peace and best wishes

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#40136 - 07/17/02 08:49 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Anonymous
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Congratulations RJD:

You have accomplished a great thing and I and others are proud of you! You have shown what a survivor can do when he/she gives their all. God bless.

rafael


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#40137 - 07/17/02 09:31 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
orodo Offline
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Registered: 03/15/02
Posts: 735
Loc: Imladris, The Safe Haven of Ar...
YOU ROCK....Rock on RJD

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#40138 - 07/17/02 10:24 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
jackjohn Offline
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MaleSurvivor

Registered: 06/17/02
Posts: 23
Loc: Fallston, MD
Outstanding! You have every reason to be proud.
Rock on!

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#40139 - 07/17/02 10:32 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
getteddie Offline
Member

Registered: 07/19/01
Posts: 226
Loc: Cub Hill, Md
RJD,
I feel that you are a true hero to all male SA survivors everywhere!!! I'm also working on finishing college..but were slowly..You give me HOPE...Thanks!!!

Eddie


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#40140 - 07/17/02 10:57 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Little Red Offline
Member
MaleSurvivor

Registered: 09/25/01
Posts: 15
Loc: White Plains
RJD,

Awesome Job - Congrats. Best of luck to you.


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#40141 - 07/18/02 01:03 AM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Spider-man Offline
Member

Registered: 04/27/02
Posts: 57
Loc: NY
RJD

Congratulations. And yeah, sometimes it takes someone else to see something in us that we refuse to see ourselves.


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#40142 - 07/18/02 06:00 AM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Broken Offline
Member

Registered: 03/25/01
Posts: 273
Loc: Huntingtun Beach, CA, US
Congrats man. I know what its like trying to succeed while going through this stuff, you feel like you have a load of bricks on your shoulders sometimes. You persavered, im proud of you man, it makes me feel like maybe i have a chance.I have a lot of things i want to do, but its hard when i can barely keep my room clean. But i am going to finish this masonry program im in, it ends in early augest, and i have been going pretty consistant. Its a struggle though, man. But we all keep fighting, right?


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#40143 - 07/18/02 02:32 PM Re: I DID IT!!! I GRADUATED!!!
Ken Followell Offline
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MaleSurvivor
Registered: 12/30/01
Posts: 990
Loc: Bradenton, FL
Great job RJD. those you will be working with will certainly benefit from all the hard work you have done.

Ken

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Everything works out right in the end. If things are not working right, it isn't the end yet. Don't let it bother you, relax and keep on goin
- Michael C. Muhammad

"I get up. I walk. I fall down. Meanwhile, I keep dancing."
� Rabbi Hillel

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