Hello All,

My name is Kevin, I am 26 years old, and I was sexually abused from the time I was elleven unitl I became an adult. The abuse was on a weekley basis, usually under the influence of alcohol.

I never realized how much I thought I was an equal and willing participant in the abuse. I trusted my perpetrator... and I was taught by him that what we were doing was: "just what guys do." At the time, I was uncomfortable, and knew something was not right. However, I was so vulnerable and well groomed that I was extremely confused. It has cast a dark cloud over my life and young adulthood.

I have had severe issues as a result of the abuse. Sexual dysfunction, sexuality questions, anxiety, addictions.. etc.. etc. I have felt for many years that I was weird and that soemthing was wromng with me that could not be undone.

I hope to heal. I hope to meet real men whom I can share these emotions with. I hope to heal. I hope to undo all the terrible emotions and fears that I have. Anger being on eof them.

Anyway, please feel free to share with me, message me... or just chat. I am new and recovery and could always use the support.

-K

Welcome! I hope you will find the healing you need.

Welcome, Kevin!

you will find a great deal of understanding and support here.

***I have had severe issues as a result of the abuse. Sexual dysfunction, sexuality questions, anxiety, addictions.. etc.. etc. I have felt for many years that I was weird and that soemthing was wromng with me that could not be undone.

I hope to heal. I hope to meet real men whom I can share these emotions with. I hope to heal. I hope to undo all the terrible emotions and fears that I have. Anger being on eof them.***

i can say "me, too!" to most of what you've written. you will find that most of us have a great deal in common with you. even if the details of the abuse differ, the resulting effects are most often very similar.

This is a great place to grow and heal. it has helped me immensely to write about my experiences and their effects and compare notes with other guys - learn from them and offer encouragement to others.

It is SO GOOD that you are tackling this at such an early age. many of us have begun much later in life. You have many years ahead of you that can be so much better if you work on the issues NOW!

take it easy - do as much as you are comfortable with - when you can. don't push yourself too hard. be kind and gentle with yourself - and ask for help when you need it. consider professional therapy if you can swing it. Lots of other good resources here and good guidance from those who've gone before...

Lee

Hi Kevin,

Welcome to MS.

I am glad you have found this place of healing and support.

If you do not have a therapist I strongly suggest you get one as soon as your circumstances allow you to do so. For help in finding a therapist please read the Consumers Guide to Therapist Shopping. Psychology Today has listings for all states and counties. You can choose the type of therapist you are seeking as well as the area(s) to which you are willng to travel. Also check your county rape crisis center. They offer services to males and females, at no cost to county residents. Some offer support groups in addition to individual therapy. Healing from these horrors is not an endeavor to be done without the help of a professional, preferably one trained to work with trauma and/ or sexual abuse.

In addition to therapy and this site, there are several books you might find useful.

Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter

Victims No Longer by Mike Lew.

I am certian others will share titles they have found useful. You can find these titles, and others here at the bookstore.

Take your time and look around. You do not want to trigger yourself by reading too many posts at one time.

At your own pace, read the boards and wander into chat. The lounge (chat) is open 24 hours a day though it isn't always populated.

We also have moderated chats called Healing Circles. They meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time and one on Tuesday at 19:00 UTC (European and African time zone) which translates to 2 PM Eastern US time zone. The Healing Circle on Tuesdays is scheduled to resume in September.

Again, welcome to MS.




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HGi Ke vin

I am so glad that you have found us here at MS.org. This is a wonderful resource and I know that you will find a lot of care and understanding here.
I am always happy when I hear of a young man joining the program. I am glad that you are not waiting like most here till your 40's to start your healing journey.
You have a chance at a good and happy life.

As long as you have a fervent honest desire to heal, you will.

Heal well
Martin

Hello Kevin, welcome to Male survivor.
Like Whome-Martin said at least you are relatively young starting search for recovery. It is not easy path but have some faith in better days.
Share with us your problems/issues, at least you can find some support here. This place and bunch of supportive people I've found here means a lot for me and my recovery.
Be well!
Pero

Hi Kevin,
I'm a female here due to a friend that was abused. He had a lot of anger also, and would get into fights. He stopped in his late 20s with the fights, but he's never told me what caused him to stop. I do know he was hooked on alcohol and has stopped that, maybe that helped. He's in his 40s and sees a therapist almost every week. Very successful man.

I'm so glad you're here, and young enough that working on it now will give you more years of enjoyment of your life.

Best wishes,
D.

Hi Kevin. I'm Mike, 31. I can relate.