Glad you are here Tom!!
Hi... I am new to the site as well. I have hidden my abuse for 40+ years. I was sexually abused by an uncle, neighbor and half brother. I can still remember everything that was done to me. I wish I could find a therapist I could talk to, but I am VERY ashamed. I have never told anyone. I am so thankful I found this site. Hopefully I can find some healing.
WoW...You told us!! You are amazing! You have survived it! That is first...and yes remembering
everything that occurred is actually quite useful, now you can begin processing it. Using a therapist helps many of us. You SIR, have absolutely NOTHING to be ashamed of, You can and will find healing, support, love, affection, and strength here. These tools will help you to understand both the events of the past and how they relate to the present.
Many of us suffer extreme amounts of shame and keep secrets for many years. I wish you luck dealing with it and am glad you are here.