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#40050 - 12/02/03 11:27 PM Think I started figuring something out
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This job is definately one that i hate and I that is not a powerful enough word for what I feel. Of course out of the 10 of us in this office, I would say (outside of the president) that maybe 1 or 2 enjoy being there . Everyone hates the place and for good reason.

But I started looking at it more and there are a couple of reasons.

1) Me and my coworker are treated like outcasts. Even though we are supposed to be there it is almost like everyone looks at us like we shouldn't be there. It is that kind of disrespect. The only time they want us is when something breaks on their computer. Otherwise, it is like why are you taking up our oxygen. A very strong tie to my life growing up. From a baby on, I was supposed to be in my family, but don't ever feel like most wanted me there except my mom. Definatley my dad and two brothers didn't want me there.

2) Just like growing up where someone may have done something wrong and my dad would get pissed at them - even though you didn't know what took place and often you were not told, you knew something happened. YOu could feel it, tell it or just know it. And that lasted sometimes for days. If you got told what it was about, you would consider yourself accepted in the family at that time while they shunned the black sheep. This is the same feeling I get in our office and it never goes away. I hate this feeling and I hate the atmosphere.

Of course my days are numbered as I know I have to move on, but no wonder I keep feeling like it is just taking more and more from me each day. I say enough of this crap!

Don

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#40051 - 12/03/03 02:53 AM Re: Think I started figuring something out
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Hi Don, is it time to start your career as a full-time masseuse? Peace, Andrew

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#40052 - 12/03/03 10:55 AM Re: Think I started figuring something out
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That is a question I have now been struggling with since I really got into school and then graduated. It would be nice to have the "steady stream of income" but that may not be possible. I am very close to making that decision because I am seeing that in order to do the massage the way I want to, I have to shuffle my life around. It may be a little choppy, scary and nerve wracking at first, but will probably be the best alternative. I have applied for a part time position which may pay enough to help ease some of the financial constraints early on. Hopefully I hear from this place soon. But I know that I am very near the point of moving forward on this. A body can only take so much and money (as little as it may be anyway in my paycheck) isn't always worth what you give up in your life. Ah, so much easier to type this than it actually is...grin!

Don

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#40053 - 12/03/03 11:50 AM Re: Think I started figuring something out
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Hi Don, advertise yourself! Promote yourself! Put some ads in the local paper. Send letters to all your friends and relatives (ok, maybe not relatives) asking for them to make referrals to you. Put your name and service on public notice boards in super markets and shopping malls. Remember, you are starting a business. My sister, who started a hugely successful salon business, used to go into shopping mall parking lots and hand out flyers. You can also hand deliver flyers or have them delivered for about 3 cents a piece to all the homes in your area -eg. 6000 homes for $180. Leave your business card at doctor's offices, sports facilities and recreational complexes, they will refer business to you. You are a certified professional massage therapist, a very marketable commodity and service, but you must treat it as a business, which means advertising and promotion. Don, you'll be a smashing success. I have total, absolute faith in you! Peace, Andrew

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#40054 - 12/03/03 12:04 PM Re: Think I started figuring something out
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I suppose it is possible that your co-workers resent your expertise with computers. They may feel stupid that they aren't able to take care of that themselves and so treat you in a way that seems like and may be ostracization.

It is certainly likely to trigger those feelings you had as a kid.

This happens to me all the time and it is very difficult to deal with. No matter what job I've had or the place I have worked, its been there.

Sometimes I feel up to examining my interpretations of what people say and do to me and figure out whether they are true or not. At oher times I am just too down or things are happening too fast for me to handle it. I may figure it out later in the day or the next morning.

I feel for you. It is a really difficult thing. I think it does get better with practice. That happens faster with some than others. It seems too slow to me.

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#40055 - 12/04/03 05:04 PM Re: Think I started figuring something out
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Actually I am doing the ground work and doing the promotion. So that is a good thing. Those are all very good ideas of which some I have already implemented. I think it is a matter of time before everything comes together and the next thing I will be worrying about is how to balance my time in life out....grin!

This is just a strange office and place to work. I'm actually not alone in these feelings about the place either. IN fact more people feel this way than love the place... what a strange situation for sure.

Don

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