I too hate my father AND my step-father. Not because I was sexually abused by either, but abuse is abuse is abuse.
However, that is why I chose to determine what my own reality of fatherhood is. I think the guys on this site are a superior example.
They ROCK! Just what I always needed in a father.
I wish you guys had been there when I really needed you. For now I'll simply appreciate what you give me now and celebrate Father's Day for the definition that I claim...
Understanding, acceptance, love, guidance. That is what a 'father' is!