We seem to be mixing up CSA and ASA.
Remember that there is a huge difference between the two With Adult Sexual assault, I don't see suicidal tendencies coming in. It takes a calculating devious man to initiate an affair. If he then gets into a situation where he might get caught with his pants down, he will start with the lies and accusations.
When an adult male is RAPED, and it does happen, he then gets these feelings. It is a serious serious happening.
Now on the other hand, a CSA victim already often has suicidal tendencies. A CSA victim has affairs as a "drug" to deal with the pains of his past. when he is caught then an entire life of lies starts to unravel.
So there are huge differences between the two.
We cannot in this day and age, write off the fact that ADULT men are raped in many different ways, and I mean raped by men and woman.
WE really need to become a little more tolerant and accepting that these things are possible.
Unfortunately Rape is no longer a gender based crime. I see this every day in Africa.
Another important factor is Nebius's gut feel about her husband. CSA victims Are generally liars, 'normal' men don't live like this so there would be a distinct difference in behaviour.
Soooo essentially Nebius would be the only one that could judge this.
I love that this is now a debate, and Nebius, we are doing the one thing I hate, hijacking your post. I am really sorry, but I hope that you have learnt something here.
I also hope that your husband will join this site, I know it will be good for him.