Good for you, Thomas! I'm glad you feel lighter now!
Please, dear soul, when you start to feel that you're not "good enough", tell her. Tell her that feeling you have. Allow her to see that hurt and vulnerability. By allowing her to see that in you, you give her the gift of the real you. In return, you give her the opportunity to show you the real her: compassionate, comforting, soothing, reassuring and encouraging.
What a gift that would have been for me had my husband trusted me enough to do the same. That honesty and trust would have provided our marriage with the lifeblood it takes most couples decades to achieve. God...the pain we, and so many others, could have been spared...
Keep on your good path, Thomas! Your beloved is one lucky lady!
For I know the plans I have made for you. Plans to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11