Thanks Yellowbird. You are incredibly strong also -I just read your last post about all you have been through, such as with your son, and your ex husband and not to mention the fact you are a survivor too -that is a VERY full plate. It's hard work being both a survivor and a supporter of a survivor! Sometimes its like being lost in a storm at sea, without solid ground or anchor!
I can totally relate to the abandonment feelings as I deal with similar issues, and when my survivor shuts me out when he's struggling, I have a hard time de-personalizing it, it activates my old fears of being rejected and abandoned.
It's extremely difficult to let go and trust that love will prevail, but I really do believe based on what you've said that this is a temporary dark period and that you will find your way back to each other.
What you said in your text about not being ok with the situation but that you will always love him and be there for him, I had to smile at -because it's both emotionally honest, and so loving - that unconditional support will help guide him back to his safe harbor.
And yes his response inquiring about you, sounds very hopeful to me.
Keep fighting the good fight Yellowbird, everything will be ok in the end.