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#398295 - 05/24/12 11:49 AM Strange - no buddies here (too)?
Magellan Offline
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Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1390
Loc: California
Hi,

I am growing concerned about something here. I see most people here have "UBB" buddies/friends in their profiles. It pains me to see this because no one has asked to be my friend or buddy here. **Correction, peroperic added me as a buddy**.

What are you doing to make that happen? What is the lead up? Is it some private email conversation that is taking place among people here? How are people making friends here?

Feeling envious and lonely (and stupid). Is there something about my personality that people don't want me as their malesurvivor buddy? What am I doing wrong?

D


Edited by Magellan (05/24/12 11:51 AM)
Edit Reason: correction
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#398296 - 05/24/12 11:52 AM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
traveler Offline
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i don't know how that works either - so that's two of us, magellan. hey - i'll be your buddy if i can find out how!

Lee
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#398299 - 05/24/12 12:15 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
peroperic2009 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/11
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Loc: South-East Europe
Hello guys and I should say my buddies smile
It is just like some kind of shortcut to profile of buddies/friends. I saw couple of weeks or days someone talk about it in one thread and I've started to add some buddies. It is easy, just open someone's profile (make hit on his nick - View profile) and after you open it there is sign: Add to UBB buddies. So chose that and that person will have you as buddy. I hope that he will also add you to his list of buddies in return.
It is not hard and it is not something too important, I guess that many of us are not sure how it works and what is all that about....
Be well buddies smile
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#398300 - 05/24/12 12:16 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
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Registered: 01/27/08
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I don't think I have anyone on my list either. I think you can just add people willy nilly as you want too.

If my memory serves me correctly it's a way to follow people's posts etc?

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#398301 - 05/24/12 12:18 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
peroperic2009 Offline
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Loc: South-East Europe
My gosh Scott, you have bunch of buddies smile , I've just cheeked it, you are very popular smile
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#398308 - 05/24/12 02:50 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
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Really? When I checked the list it showed empty!

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#398311 - 05/24/12 03:18 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
peroperic2009 Offline
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Well I can see 15 buddies at your profile Scott smile
I don't know how you don't see it.
UBB Buddies that we are talking about are here:
Go to My stuff - View profile and see at bottom avatars of your UBB buddies.

Hey Magellan you got one more buddy, you are becoming popular too wink!


Edited by peroperic2009 (05/24/12 03:32 PM)
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#398316 - 05/24/12 04:06 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
JustScott Offline
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IC IC!

I went to My Stuff --> Buddies....

That shows blank.

Spiffy.

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#398697 - 05/29/12 02:27 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
Magellan Offline
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Registered: 12/31/10
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Loc: California
Thanks, you guys. Now I feel silly.

But still very VERY lonely in real life.

As much "recovery" as I've had in realizing who/what I am and what happened to me, I still am not able to relax around other people. Makes relating and relationships fucking impossible.

This sucks.

>:(
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#398715 - 05/29/12 04:52 PM Re: Strange - no buddies here (too)? [Re: Magellan]
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Registered: 11/04/10
Posts: 276
Loc: U.S.A.
Hey Magellan."

Think i see a bit of myself in you. Have always found your posts to be inspiring at the least. In your strength shown, I think many ppl assume you are happy. That your day to day would consist with the strength and insight you show here. Think from time to time ppl can make the same assumption of me.

Be glad to have you as a buddy here bro" Take care and be well. Something ive been trying to remember lately, sort of a mantra if you will, is that ppl like me. No matter what, even if they dont know it yet- They like me. Acting under that assumptin, if i can truly do it, helps ALOT. Be well"
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