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#3972 - 08/21/01 01:02 PM my therapist's "opinions"

Well, after 7 months of therapy, I finally confessed to my therapist that I "suspect" I was abused as a child. I didn't go into detail of all the feelings/reactions I've felt, and I didn't go into detail about all the pieces that "fit". I'm still not sure whether *I* believe myself, so how can I expect HIM to believe me? Maybe I'm just making all this up... maybe nothing DID happen and I'm just "odd" (wierd, crazy, unbalanced, psychotic, choose your pigeonhole). Do I try and work through this with him? Do I accept his Freud-based theory that nothing DID happen? Do I pack up and find another therapist?

un-sure and un-believed

#3973 - 08/21/01 05:26 PM Re: my therapist's "opinions"
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Boy can I relate. When I first started to recall things, I really didn't fully trust my own memmories either. Thank God my therapist was supportive through my self-doubt. Or else I'd be dead right now. I felt so unsure. I didn't want to believe myself.
I think you have to go with your instincts. And if your therapist seems unreasonable, change. This is terriblly hard as it is to deal with, You NEED a support.
Good luck.......BL

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#3974 - 08/21/01 08:45 PM Re: my therapist's "opinions"

I think before you leave your therapist, you might want to talk to him about what you're feeling... It's possible that he wasn't saying what you think he was saying....

I've had times when I've been upset at my therapist for something he said, and it turns out that what I heard wasn't really what he said... It was what I expected him to say....

If after discussing it with him, you find out that he was and is doubting you, then maybe it is time to find a different therapist... I think trust is really important...

And just because someone is a therapist doesn't mean they can't have issues of their own that can get in the way...

Hope things go well...



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