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#413284 - 10/16/12 12:49 PM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
peroperic2009 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3608
Loc: South-East Europe
Hey sandiego, welcome to MaleSurvivor. I'm sorry that you have to be here, and I'm sorry to hear about your story, must be difficult for you since than frown
At least this is good place to share your story and give/get some support by other survivors.
Please consider to make post into introduction part of this board where many brothers could greet you more easily:
http://www.malesurvivor.org/board/ubbthreads.php?ubb=postlist&Board=72&page=1
Be well brother!

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#414355 - 10/26/12 11:09 AM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
JoziSA Offline
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Registered: 05/05/12
Posts: 144
Loc: Johannesburg, South Africa
I think I should give some feedback on my journey to recovery. It has been a while since I have been here. I recently summitted Kilimanjaro, Africa's highest point and the worlds tallest stand alone mountain. This was part of my healing process as I climbed for all male suvivors. The journey as now been posted on a blog with pictures.
www.kilimalesurvivor.wordpress.com
Please post some comments for other male survivors.
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Rees (JoziSA)
My Story and Blog www.kilimalesurvivor.wordpress.com

South African MALE SURVIVORS of Sexual Abuse
www.samsosa.org
If your mind can perceive it and your heart can believe it, YOU can achieve it.

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#414366 - 10/26/12 11:45 AM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
peroperic2009 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/11
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Loc: South-East Europe
Hey JoziSA, it is good to see you after some time wink
You were on top of Kilimanjaro, wow, I will read all that you wrote about this challenge. I truly believe that there is one mountain for everyone of us waiting to be conquered! It must be some great healing experience?
Your blog is AWESOME!

I hope to see you more around smile

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#414528 - 10/28/12 04:55 AM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
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Loc: Johannesburg, South Africa
Thanks Pero.

The one thing a did learn on that journey, is that the reward for your own healing, is to help others heal. Just as you and the others are doing here.
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Rees (JoziSA)
My Story and Blog www.kilimalesurvivor.wordpress.com

South African MALE SURVIVORS of Sexual Abuse
www.samsosa.org
If your mind can perceive it and your heart can believe it, YOU can achieve it.

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#414604 - 10/29/12 02:10 AM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
Liam Offline
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Registered: 09/03/03
Posts: 41
Loc: Currently South Africa
All i can say is sorry. Its not your fault never was. You have an amazing story and you are the first case of a man in the military in South Africa to come forth. I were only a cadet on a cadet camp and i withnessed some serious male abuse as well. Being fifteen at the time and being a survivor myself i am just glad it werent happening to me. There were some older guys hitting on younger guys and i managed to stay away from them the entire time. I am sorry this happened to you. I am sorry that it took you so long to feel the comfort to come forth but i for one am so glad you did. Please keep me posted - you have my emial and cell number by now.

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#415096 - 11/02/12 02:18 PM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
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Registered: 05/05/12
Posts: 144
Loc: Johannesburg, South Africa
Sandiego

I took on a challenge this year to climb the tallest stand alone mountain in the world and the highest point in Africa, it was part my own healing for me to feel like a real man and to climb for other male survivors. Please visit the blog and I hope it helps you. www.kilimalesurvivor.wordpress.com
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Rees (JoziSA)
My Story and Blog www.kilimalesurvivor.wordpress.com

South African MALE SURVIVORS of Sexual Abuse
www.samsosa.org
If your mind can perceive it and your heart can believe it, YOU can achieve it.

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#419790 - 12/21/12 07:07 PM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
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Registered: 08/02/12
Posts: 6
Loc: chicago
I had a very similar experience as described in this post(in college). I fell asleep and woke up when a guy tried to give me oral. I hand drank quite a bit of alcohol. I did not know the guy very well at all. I chased him out of the room and told a couple of my friends what he had done. We all agreed that this guy was letcherous. I offer this because I don't remember feeling any emotional repercussions other than being a little shocked. I must have been 19 at the time. Therefore, I'm wondering if part of what you are feeling is more about how your military superiors dealt with the issue. I'm not trying to marginalize your expereince but wonder if you need to tease out what the issues actually are and why they have had this effect on you.

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#419800 - 12/21/12 11:12 PM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
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Registered: 12/30/10
Posts: 950
Loc: southern California
JoziSA,
You are my new role model.
-Keith
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"A burned bridge can be a gift; it prevents us from returning to a place we should have never been."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5JfvAPZGjds

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#423944 - 02/01/13 01:21 AM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
JoziSA Offline
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Registered: 05/05/12
Posts: 144
Loc: Johannesburg, South Africa
Keith

I'm sorry I missed this. Thank You.

I'm very excited, Mike Lew's air tickets have been booked and he is coming to a South Africa. He will doing a series of training for professionals and weekend for survivors.
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Rees (JoziSA)
My Story and Blog www.kilimalesurvivor.wordpress.com

South African MALE SURVIVORS of Sexual Abuse
www.samsosa.org
If your mind can perceive it and your heart can believe it, YOU can achieve it.

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#423949 - 02/01/13 02:18 AM Re: I was raped while on active duty.***TRIGGER** [Re: JoziSA]
peroperic2009 Offline
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Registered: 10/09/11
Posts: 3608
Loc: South-East Europe
Those are some great news Rees smile
Keep us informed!

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