Well this is just so sad, It seems to be a very British way of dealing with this problem.
I am deeply saddened that they are such a modern society, and they continue to Not deal with the victims of sexual abuse. I am sorry that he had that experience with the therapist, and this therapist should actually reported, not easy when no one seems to give a Sh*^.
The other great problem is that simply giving him drugs and saying things are better, IS NOT DEALING WITH THE PROBLEM.
Drugs inhibit the ability to feel emotions, and if a man cant feel, well then, he cant heal.
Now I am going to give you a web site that you need to go to, and there is a forum on this site. The group Is called AMSOSA, and it is based in Swindon, please contact them and ask them for a therapist that specializes in the treatment of CSA.
The web Page is www.amsosa.com
Now, as far as you are concerned, please do not take this from your man. YOU ARE NOT A DOORMAT. there is a great post on that on this forum, read it.
You are in a position to be able to TELL this man that he needs to start dealing with his past. It is for your own sanity, and for his.
I am a great believer in the health of the Spouse, if you are not well then you cannot assist him to be well. But you have also been mentally and emotionally abused so you need to find yourself and once you find that self again, then you will have the strength to assist your husband to go and heal himself.
Please contact AMSOSA, and they will be able to advise you and help you to get your husband to heal.
I hope that I have not come across to harsh, but I am rather passionate about this.
Feel free to contact me and PM me at any time if you need more info re groups etc in Britain.