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#39599 - 06/12/03 11:02 PM This Feels Selfish
sonlite Offline
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Registered: 12/11/01
Posts: 100
Loc: North Carolina
I haven't been here in a couple of days and I haven't been contributing to supporting anybody else, even though many people have helped me. I get like that sometimes, consumed w my own healing.

Anyways I am selfishly asking for someone, anyone to read and respond my post in Survivor Stories called "I emailed this story to a budding relationship". Basically this woman is REALLY persuing me and she has an abuse hx as well and she is very spiritual and new age-ie and all and so I decided to email her my story after I had tipped her off to do an internet search on PTSD to prep her beforehand.

I felt disappointed that I had posted my story and nobody listened or responded. It makes me feel like the quiet little boy, who never talked bc no one was listening. But I am not a little boy anymore and so that is why I am posting this to let people know my feelings. I don't care if people say negative stuff or not. I can handle it.

Thanks, John


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#39600 - 06/13/03 12:12 AM Re: This Feels Selfish
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Registered: 10/08/02
Posts: 288
Loc: Arizona, USA
Hey John,
Don't worry about that. Nobody is able to make a reply in the Survivor Stories section. I think they want it that way so no one will judge the person who posts their story. You can always move it over the the main forum if you would like to get some feedback on it. The moderators can tell you more about that.
Take care,
Mike

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#39601 - 06/13/03 10:15 AM Re: This Feels Selfish
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Registered: 08/19/02
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John:

People are able to reply in Survivor Stories but the forum guidelines discourage it for
the reasons Mike mentioned. So it's a bit confusing.

Also people can read the stories & respond to them in another forum like this one unless a person doesn't want feedback, which I guess they would need to put in their story post. But perhaps since people know they aren't supposed
to respond to the stories in the Story forum they
think they can't respond anywhere else or don't make the effort to or I'm afraid don't even read the stories.

John, WTG on letting us know your feelings!
And thanks for sharing your story.

Victor

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#39602 - 06/13/03 01:52 PM Re: This Feels Selfish
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Registered: 09/21/02
Posts: 164
Loc: US
John,

Thank you for sharing your story and a part of yourself.

I read your story but for reasons mentioned above did not reply. In my thoughts, I wished you all the best with this relationship. Best of luck with it. I hope it turns out the way you wish.

I also want to mention that it is great that you mentioned this and related your feelings. Otherwise, we would never have a clue and you might have gone on feeling bad for a long time.

Communication is the key.

Have a great weekend,
Freedom

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#39603 - 06/13/03 02:03 PM Re: This Feels Selfish
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Registered: 04/17/02
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Yes, the Survivors Stories forum should be just for stories and no replies.
I know there are a few there and I meant to PM those guys and ask them if they minded moving tham, but I forgot.

Maybe if you want replies just ask for them to be posted on this forum at the end of your story ?

The reasoning for no replies is to make the forum a place where you can unload your story in complete safety. Another idea is to put it there first and when you feel confident about it bring it to another forum.

Dave

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#39604 - 06/13/03 02:48 PM Re: This Feels Selfish
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Registered: 02/27/03
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Loc: Maryland USA
Quote:
I also want to mention that it is great that you mentioned this and related your feelings. Otherwise, we would never have a clue and you might have gone on feeling bad for a long time.

Communication is the key.
Gosh, Freedom, you sound like someone from the real world. \:D But seriously, thanks for the words of wisdom.

Thanks,

Joe

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#39605 - 06/13/03 06:03 PM Re: This Feels Selfish
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Registered: 09/21/02
Posts: 164
Loc: US
Joe,

Tease all you want; it has a feel of acceptance and ease.

Bur seriously: Yes, when I shared that, it was from experience from a real world, SA world. My friend and I are learning the value of true communication so it was fresh on my mind (positive experience this morning). It is a slow and painful process but positive moments help us stay on track.

Have a great weekend,
Freedom.

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