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#396609 - 05/09/12 01:33 PM Re: Should I Tell My Mother? [Re: jls]
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Registered: 03/30/12
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I am a mother whose son told me a year ago about the abuse he had experienced. I think you need to consider the questions that have been posed--especially how you will react if your mother doesn't take it well. (I think people sometimes try to disassociate from such shocking news and it takes time for the real reaction.) I didn't react much at first. I was too stunned. Eventually, my son and I started having conversations about what had happened and how he felt. My biggest concern since then has been "What can I do to help him heal?" Your mom sounds as if she might feel the same way. And I think it's important to tell her since you are obviously thinking about it. Keeping it inside may just add to your stress.

Good luck!

#396627 - 05/09/12 04:07 PM Re: Should I Tell My Mother? [Re: jls]
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For me, familial disclosure did nothing good for anyone. ALL it did was destroy and damage. All THAT was a function of the nature of my family dynamics and the individuals they are.

You know your people. If being loving and supportive are of their nature, then disclose.
Stop expecting people to be other than what they are! You'll be so much better-off. [Christopher, age 10]

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