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#395605 - 04/30/12 11:34 AM Getting my hopes up
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Why do I always get my hopes up when I apply for a job? I always think I'm going to get it and I start planning in my head what it's going to be like and then I'm disappointed when I don't get it.
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#395606 - 04/30/12 12:02 PM Re: Getting my hopes up [Re: onlyakid]
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That's very human, and common.

go gentle on yourself.

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#395609 - 04/30/12 12:18 PM Re: Getting my hopes up [Re: onlyakid]
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Yes, thats very human and very common.

The trick is to stay in the NOW. It's nice to have hope but to start planning your office design before you're offered the position is an expectation. A slogan to live by "Expectations are resentments waiting to happen."

The only thing you can do is apply and shine and do your best, and keep doing it. You'll get a job eventually. It's the expectation and day dreaming that comes from it that results in devastation and anger.

I speak from personal experience here.

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#395613 - 04/30/12 01:56 PM Re: Getting my hopes up [Re: onlyakid]
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Why do I always get my hopes up when I apply for a job?

Because that is the only way to do it.

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I always think I'm going to get it and I start planning in my head what it's going to be like and then I'm disappointed when I don't get it.

That kind of thinking yields incredible dividends, but often not without rejections beforehand. Your attitude is correct. Keep putting yourself out there...
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#395659 - 04/30/12 11:28 PM * [Re: onlyakid]
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/28/13 01:45 PM)

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#395663 - 04/30/12 11:55 PM Re: Getting my hopes up [Re: Magellan]
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Originally Posted By: Magellan
Yes, thats very human and very common.

The trick is to stay in the NOW. It's nice to have hope but to start planning your office design before you're offered the position is an expectation. A slogan to live by "Expectations are resentments waiting to happen."

The only thing you can do is apply and shine and do your best, and keep doing it. You'll get a job eventually. It's the expectation and day dreaming that comes from it that results in devastation and anger.

I speak from personal experience here.

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Bingo! As a kid, I learned to expect nothing because I was going to get nothing from my parents even caring. That hurts really bad to say. Hope for the best, expect the worst. Getting interviews is a good thing. Accept it's good practice. For two years almost, no one would talk to me because I'm over 40 so getting interviews is a great thing in this economy.


Edited by phoenix321 (05/01/12 05:09 AM)
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