As a male i am expected to have sex whenever i get the chace. I am expected to crave it. I often find myself in a situation where i am having sex just because I am a man and thats what men are suppost to do. Then i end up regreting it, i enjoy sex but what i want is a relaionship. I have only had one relaionship it lasted four years and it stared with a one night stand. So now i tend to have one night stands hoping a relaionship spawns out of it. I was a virgen until 23 i am 28 now and have only been with 5 women my entire life. This to me seems like a good thing but in the male social circle it is frowned upon. All five times it was either a one night stand or atleast started that way. Most of the women who want me in their lives expect me to be the guy on the side just once i would like to be the guy

Don't worry you're doing fine on balance it seems to me. You've been with a woman for four years out of the last six from what I make out and you'll be missing that probably. But it'll sort itself out in time. That you can get sex shows at least you're physically attractive to women. Not every man can feel that.

I was 23 also before I stopped being a virgin, they had me in mind when they came up with the phrase crazy mixed up kid. I think I slept with another four or five women after that myself, the last one is still with me. We got married forty years ago last Christmas Eve.

Good luck Kirby it's never easy but we get there.

Tom

Kirby maybe you need to turn it around and get the relationship going before you add sex to the mix. I once heard it said that sex should only be about 10% of the total relationship, however their is no problem with it being your favorite 10%. Take care Mike