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#395345 - 04/28/12 09:02 PM Male Rape Survivors and Victim-Blaming
James Landrith Offline


Registered: 07/07/08
Posts: 40
Loc: Alexandria, VA, USA
My latest article is up now at The Good Men Project:

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While there is understandably a good deal of discussion surrounding how victim-blaming affects female rape survivors, many people are quick to dismiss the same when it affects male rape survivors. In some cases, well-meaning people will go so far as to co-opt the traumas of one gender to highlight a point about another gender in a very dismissive or minimizing manner. Periodically, a blogger will post a commentary that runs something to the effect of “see, when it happens to teh menz, it is always taken seriously, but never when it happens to women.” While I understand such pieces are meant to highlight the horrible nature of victim-blaming toward female rape survivors, the end result is that they have used a traumatic experience from one rape survivor to make the case that other rape survivors have it worse based solely on gender.


http://goodmenproject.com/on-rape-and-sexual-violence/male-rape-survivors-and-victim-blaming/

This article has also been linked to by uber-blogger Andrew Sullivan:

http://andrewsullivan.thedailybeast.com/2012/01/when-women-rape-men.html


Edited by James Landrith (04/28/12 09:05 PM)
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#395535 - 04/29/12 10:27 PM Re: Male Rape Survivors and Victim-Blaming [Re: James Landrith]
jls Offline


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I went to the link and read the article. The myth that I love is that we are in it for the money. Let's just say that if I could at least get all the therapy I'm paying for covered I'd be happy.
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#395861 - 05/02/12 08:51 PM * [Re: James Landrith]
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/28/13 05:41 PM)

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#396345 - 05/06/12 08:34 PM . [Re: James Landrith]
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Edited by Life's A Dream (01/12/13 10:40 PM)

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#396638 - 05/09/12 06:28 PM Re: Male Rape Survivors and Victim-Blaming [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
phoenix321 Offline


Registered: 09/26/11
Posts: 912
Loc: USA, FL
Originally Posted By: Smalltown80sBoy
Yep. Here's one piece that claims male survivors have it easier:

http://www.straightgoods.ca/2012/ViewArticle.cfm?Ref=287&Cookies=yes#.T4TbkfN3XVs.twitter

I kind of went ballistic when I first read it. Still pisses me off.


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In these enlightened times, few boys and men who speak out about sexual abuse are suspected of making up their story or of having encouraged the sexual contact — as still happens with girls and women.


That's bullshit. Considering how women are treated with rape, I wouldn't report it either though. 1 in 5 women are raped from 16-28 (I think those ages or 16-26). That's a total disgrace. Not sure about adult women raping adult men. Probably a lot lower for obvious reason--strength, larger size. Adult men raping adult men is probably the most common (and most believed? Not sure there).
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