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As an adult learning healthy relationship boundaries was extremely difficult growing up in an incestuous household. Many times I recreated this same 'no boundary' situation because I knew of no other way. Enmeshment equated to love back in those days.

Now at 56 (seems ancient but it's not) I understand and relish having healthy boundaries because it allows me to have intimacy with others. And allows me to love and be loved.

This is a far cry from where I began my journey.

My hats off to you for taking the leap of faith to tell your story and began your journey of truth finding and healing.

TY...
alot has gone on i think its time to update

Jayy

so a lot has happened good n bad since i wrote this...

in a nut shell, i left Hayden.. we need to work on things and i definately need my space just me and my child... he slapped me more than once (and that is another story in itself) so for the best right now while i still try to heal, start my healing process, and still find out who i truly am i moved. I moved where my old job was and got it back. I moved to a GBTL community and am very welcomed there which is good for me i guess. I started a parents group within the community and i am the youngest there in the group being everyone else is way older than me. I am very quiet but they understand and accept that... Maybe it will help. I am among where i live now couples that have kids so it will b good for my son...
It was a rash decision but i think it was a good one... I got tired of the broken boundries and the bugging Hayden did. I guess maybe time apart will do us good

Jayy

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ty gary.. ty much

Jayy - brave step you took. i think you did the right thing. i wanted to suggest it but was afraid you were so dependent upon the living situation that it would either be impossible for you to do - or that you would find it too traumatic to leave one of the few sources of (admittedly mixed!) emotional support.

you are taking control of your life. that is such a good thing.
keep growing!
Lee

lee
thanks you... and it turned out he was hurting my emotional support... there is more to it.. i dunno how anyone would feel if i even put it down all here..as i am still quite hesitant.. i hope everyone understand that part... Hayden for sure hurt me more than i though he could and well yes a good thing...

i do have help with my two brothers but they are leaving soon... Jeremy tomorrow or next day and Matt wants to stay a lil longer to make sure i am ok with everything...

i feel like i am loosing control though as i try to gain control ya know?..

Jayy

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