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#394388 - 04/22/12 12:55 AM * [Re: dragon]
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#394663 - 04/23/12 09:50 PM Re: confused in a huge mess [Re: dragon]
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As an adult learning healthy relationship boundaries was extremely difficult growing up in an incestuous household. Many times I recreated this same 'no boundary' situation because I knew of no other way. Enmeshment equated to love back in those days.

Now at 56 (seems ancient but it's not) I understand and relish having healthy boundaries because it allows me to have intimacy with others. And allows me to love and be loved.

This is a far cry from where I began my journey.

My hats off to you for taking the leap of faith to tell your story and began your journey of truth finding and healing.

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#394672 - 04/23/12 10:53 PM Re: confused in a huge mess [Re: HunterH777]
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Registered: 04/17/12
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Loc: on the river between Hades n V...
TY...
alot has gone on i think its time to update

Jayy
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I want justice I want you overthrown;I want courage I want to stand alone;I want your arrogance and I want your pain;I want your everything and I want you dead--- Rev Theory: Justice

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#394673 - 04/23/12 10:59 PM Re: confused in a huge mess [Re: dragon]
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Loc: on the river between Hades n V...
so a lot has happened good n bad since i wrote this...

in a nut shell, i left Hayden.. we need to work on things and i definately need my space just me and my child... he slapped me more than once (and that is another story in itself) so for the best right now while i still try to heal, start my healing process, and still find out who i truly am i moved. I moved where my old job was and got it back. I moved to a GBTL community and am very welcomed there which is good for me i guess. I started a parents group within the community and i am the youngest there in the group being everyone else is way older than me. I am very quiet but they understand and accept that... Maybe it will help. I am among where i live now couples that have kids so it will b good for my son...
It was a rash decision but i think it was a good one... I got tired of the broken boundries and the bugging Hayden did. I guess maybe time apart will do us good

Jayy
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I don't want to look back;I just want to start again;Somebody save me--- Pop Evil: Broken and Betrayed

I want justice I want you overthrown;I want courage I want to stand alone;I want your arrogance and I want your pain;I want your everything and I want you dead--- Rev Theory: Justice

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#394692 - 04/24/12 12:17 AM * [Re: HunterH777]
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#394694 - 04/24/12 12:20 AM * [Re: dragon]
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/28/13 05:30 PM)

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#394699 - 04/24/12 01:01 AM Re: confused in a huge mess [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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Registered: 04/17/12
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Loc: on the river between Hades n V...
ty gary.. ty much
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I don't want to look back;I just want to start again;Somebody save me--- Pop Evil: Broken and Betrayed

I want justice I want you overthrown;I want courage I want to stand alone;I want your arrogance and I want your pain;I want your everything and I want you dead--- Rev Theory: Justice

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#394702 - 04/24/12 01:07 AM Re: confused in a huge mess [Re: dragon]
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Jayy - brave step you took. i think you did the right thing. i wanted to suggest it but was afraid you were so dependent upon the living situation that it would either be impossible for you to do - or that you would find it too traumatic to leave one of the few sources of (admittedly mixed!) emotional support.

you are taking control of your life. that is such a good thing.
keep growing!
Lee
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sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
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#394709 - 04/24/12 01:35 AM Re: confused in a huge mess [Re: traveler]
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Registered: 04/17/12
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Loc: on the river between Hades n V...
lee
thanks you... and it turned out he was hurting my emotional support... there is more to it.. i dunno how anyone would feel if i even put it down all here..as i am still quite hesitant.. i hope everyone understand that part... Hayden for sure hurt me more than i though he could and well yes a good thing...

i do have help with my two brothers but they are leaving soon... Jeremy tomorrow or next day and Matt wants to stay a lil longer to make sure i am ok with everything...

i feel like i am loosing control though as i try to gain control ya know?..

Jayy
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I don't want to look back;I just want to start again;Somebody save me--- Pop Evil: Broken and Betrayed

I want justice I want you overthrown;I want courage I want to stand alone;I want your arrogance and I want your pain;I want your everything and I want you dead--- Rev Theory: Justice

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#394856 - 04/25/12 12:35 AM * [Re: dragon]
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