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#39458 - 03/20/04 06:29 AM losing the fight
Leosha Offline

Registered: 06/18/03
Posts: 3614
Loc: Right here
don't knwo I can do this no more. help. sorry

Avatar photo in memory of my younger brother Makar.

"Human salvation lies in the hands of the creatively maladjusted."~~~Martin Luther King Jr., 1963

#39459 - 03/20/04 09:13 AM Re: losing the fight
LupinIII Offline

Registered: 02/21/04
Posts: 156
Something that helps me when I am feeling like that is to change my perspective and try to ride it out.

You are not losing the fight. You are having a bad spell. If you can accept this then you can also remember that what goes down must also come back up.

You can do it brother, you have not lost. If all else fails just keep repeating that powerful quotation you have as your signature!!!!

Sending good thoughts your way friend,

#39460 - 03/20/04 11:05 AM Re: losing the fight
crisispoint Offline

Registered: 09/24/03
Posts: 2154
Loc: Massachusetts

You are a strong man who is having a VERY bad moment right now. Please hang on.

I KNOW what you're talking about. SOme days, I believe I can't make it. The thing that'll get you through is how good a man you really are. You've touched so many lives and you've already lived through much more than any person should endure and you held onto your soul when most others who survive would have thrown it away.

My brother, dear brother, I'm here. We're all here. Please remember that.

E-mail, PM, or voice mail me if there's anything I can do to help you.

I need yoh here, Leo. Don't give up.

Peace and love,


There are reasons I'm taking medication. They're called "other people." - Me, displaying my anti-social tendancies

#39461 - 03/20/04 11:13 AM Re: losing the fight
Mike Church Offline
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Registered: 01/23/03
Posts: 3439
Loc: Toronto, Canada
Leosha see all your brothers are all right with you shoulder to shoulder.

Yeh it can get overwhelming at times. That is when you have to take a deep breath and think really hard about how far you have come. Do not dwell on the slips, we are only human. And concentrate on just today.

And be gentle with yourself ;\)



#39462 - 03/20/04 11:33 AM Re: losing the fight
coolcat Offline

Registered: 02/23/04
Posts: 109
Loc: Winnipeg MB Canada
Hold on man, things will get better. Last weekend I was also at the end of my wits but as the week has gone on things have gotten abit better. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Take some time for yourself, try to re focus your energy and if need be get some help. Don't let your abuser win. You can make it.

Take care


Take it easy, Don't that the sounds of your own wheels drive you crazy....

#39463 - 03/20/04 09:14 PM Re: losing the fight
outis Offline

Registered: 02/27/03
Posts: 2260
Loc: Maryland USA

You will not lose the fight. Like LupinIII says, you are in a bad spell. But something kept you going, and it will keep you going. You're too stubborn to lose the fight, and that's a good thing. We all need you here.


"Telemachos, your guest is no discredit to you. I wasted no time in stringing the bow, and I did not miss the mark. My strength is yet unbroken…"—The Odyssey, translated by W.H.D. Rouse

#39464 - 03/20/04 09:36 PM Re: losing the fight
RICK57 Offline

Registered: 12/31/03
Posts: 1611
Leosha - can I be selfish and tell you that I want you to keep dealing with this and I want you to beat it! Do you know why? I've just read your response to my posting on touching etc & your response is so close to describing, understanding and empathising with what I hoped that I'd posted - you must win, because then I also win!

Leosha - let's show those ******** what we are made of!

Sending you some strength ...Rik

*Never look down on anybody unless you're helping them up.
*I was seeking a way of expressing my anger - I found hope!
*There are many battles before the war is won! It can be won!

#39465 - 03/25/04 07:41 PM Re: losing the fight
parttimecop Offline

Registered: 03/05/04
Posts: 139
I know that you can win, you can beat this. You may not win every battle, but you will win the war.

May God be with you and bless you.


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