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#394105 - 04/19/12 07:00 PM *
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Edited by Smalltown80sBoy (04/28/13 05:21 PM)

#394193 - 04/20/12 02:20 AM Re: Survivor to Thriver: My inner child TRIGGER [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
chambers Offline

Registered: 04/17/12
Posts: 118
Loc: VA
What I got from exercises like these was w/ your inner child was a way to stop blaming myself for what happened. It showed me, I was a kid in an impossible situation and I did what I had to in order to survive.

I think the part about letting the inner child out through activities is a way to take a step towards feeling good again, feeling joy, fun, happiness. This takes you away from the numbness.

Being numb for me was and still is a way to survive. I avoided contact, connection, emotion b/c it always seemed to end w/ me getting hurt. It's hard to break out of and trust me when I say you're not the only one struggling w/ it.

#394204 - 04/20/12 05:45 AM . [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
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Registered: 08/25/11
Posts: 886
Loc: Bouvet Island

Edited by Life's A Dream (01/12/13 10:52 PM)

#394240 - 04/20/12 01:04 PM Re: Survivor to Thriver: My inner child TRIGGER [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
Magellan Offline

Registered: 12/31/10
Posts: 1439
Loc: California
One of the few good things I can remember in my childhood was my connection to the dogs we had. I had such a bond with them, I loved them so much. THey were my brothers / sisters (I was an only child).

Over the last 20 years of living on my own, I've always had a desire to have a dog. Opining for one so deeply, but resisting the urge to get one. I live in a city, in studios/ apartments, and didn't think it would be responsible to get a dog.

My sponsor convinced me to read up a little bit and bend a few rules to get a dog. I did.

Having the dog around is helping me to reconnect to the child that was - I feel joy and happiness when playing with him. I've become a little bit silly, and find my sense of humor spontaneously erupting with quips and sly jokes.

Something that might help you find the inner child within - to remember the things you DID love in childhood, and do them again. Or collect a few artifacts / toys from childhood, if you can. Remember the good (there was SOME) and bring it into your present day life. The child within will awaken and let you know how to be with him.


#394278 - 04/20/12 08:27 PM Re: Survivor to Thriver: My inner child TRIGGER [Re: Smalltown80sBoy]
traveler Offline

Registered: 02/07/06
Posts: 3646
Loc: somewhere in Africa
yup - i became a "talking head" - not much awareness of the rest of my body at all for years. I chose to do that - like divorcing my physicality or decapitating my self. now it's back and thinks it can take over!
"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself... And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity." - Paulo Coelho

#394303 - 04/21/12 01:24 AM * [Re: Magellan]
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